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Re: Sad and disappointed........
« Reply #15 on: Tuesday 13 March 07 19:59 GMT (UK) »

I am wondering if this is the problem because I too am not getting any replies.

I thought I would try and send a message to myself via the Surname Interest Table to see if it is working.... Nothing to click on to send a message Huh to me.

I can see the facility listed on other peoples profiles but not on mine Huh

I can't see anything that needs activating, and I do get messages via the Rootschat Board.

Help....Ambers
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GLAMORGAN: Evans. Davies. Eddy. Bradnum.
PEMBROKE: Bradnum. Summers
CARMARTHENSHIRE:  Davies. Jones
NORFOLK/SUFFOLK: Bradnum. Helsdon. Cork. Whiskins. Fairhead.Catchpole.
DEVON: Mallett. Acford, Kidston. Short. Lover. Dampier, Johns, Edwards,Telford. Sparrow
SOMERSET: Masey
CORNWALL: Eddy. Thomas. Maddern. Harvey. Noy.Reynolds,Batten, Curtis. Tregenza,Trebilcock
Warwickshire: Mountney
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Re: Sad and disappointed........
« Reply #16 on: Tuesday 13 March 07 20:14 GMT (UK) »

What a rude person Kerry...as you say makes your blood boil.

But what comes around goes around....
I was very tempted by someones rude attitude via another board but I remained courteous. Just to think I would have scanned a copy of the information he required had he been polite, ooh but it did cross my mind to ignore him.

As you say we pay £7.00 for the info, and don't get even a Thanks for sharing it from some people.

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GLAMORGAN: Evans. Davies. Eddy. Bradnum.
PEMBROKE: Bradnum. Summers
CARMARTHENSHIRE:  Davies. Jones
NORFOLK/SUFFOLK: Bradnum. Helsdon. Cork. Whiskins. Fairhead.Catchpole.
DEVON: Mallett. Acford, Kidston. Short. Lover. Dampier, Johns, Edwards,Telford. Sparrow
SOMERSET: Masey
CORNWALL: Eddy. Thomas. Maddern. Harvey. Noy.Reynolds,Batten, Curtis. Tregenza,Trebilcock
Warwickshire: Mountney
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Re: Sad and disappointed........
« Reply #17 on: Tuesday 13 March 07 20:34 GMT (UK) »

TracyL

I know exactly how you feel and you are quite right to have a moan. There is no excuse,  it is just bad manners. It infuriates me when people do not respond to e-mails. Something I have noticed recently on RC which saddens me, is somebody asking for help, the information they require is posted, and then nothing, no thank you, nothing. What makes it worse is when you notice that the person who posted the original request is actually ON LINE.  Angry
What is the matter with these people. It makes my blood boil.
Rant over ................ for now.

Quiller

This has happened to me a few times. I was particularly peeved today to find that a person who had asked for info on a wedding in Scotland - and I'd used my SP units on  giving them the info, had then gone on and asked for info on another related surname on a different thread. No thanks. Nothing. I feel like outing him but I won't.

The vast majority of people on here are grateful and we all help one another, but these rude people let the side down badly.

Needless to say, he is on my avoid list.

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Re: Sad and disappointed........
« Reply #18 on: Tuesday 13 March 07 21:24 GMT (UK) »

It's sad when people don't consistently acknowledge other's efforts.  Having said that, I expect I have done it once or twice because I was distracted.  If so, please forgive me  Embarrassed

On personal messages, I do sometimes wonder if everyone understands how the system works, but that surely wouldn't account for the very low proportion of responses you've received, Ambers.

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Suffolk - Rose
Surrey - Baker, Bedel, Bransden, Carter, Coleman, Gibbs, Luetchford, Quinton
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Re: Sad and disappointed........
« Reply #19 on: Tuesday 13 March 07 21:58 GMT (UK) »

Hi Julian,

Thank you for your message.

I just wonder if infact it is possible for someone to send me a message via Surname Interest Table...as there is not a place for anyone to click..Send this person a PM
I can see it other people's though when going through the Surname Interests Table.......

Maybe I don't understand how it works either

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GLAMORGAN: Evans. Davies. Eddy. Bradnum.
PEMBROKE: Bradnum. Summers
CARMARTHENSHIRE:  Davies. Jones
NORFOLK/SUFFOLK: Bradnum. Helsdon. Cork. Whiskins. Fairhead.Catchpole.
DEVON: Mallett. Acford, Kidston. Short. Lover. Dampier, Johns, Edwards,Telford. Sparrow
SOMERSET: Masey
CORNWALL: Eddy. Thomas. Maddern. Harvey. Noy.Reynolds,Batten, Curtis. Tregenza,Trebilcock
Warwickshire: Mountney
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Re: Sad and disappointed........
« Reply #20 on: Tuesday 13 March 07 22:01 GMT (UK) »

I'll have a go ambers  Smiley

i sent you and ordinary PM just to check - did you get that?

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Re: Sad and disappointed........
« Reply #21 on: Tuesday 13 March 07 22:03 GMT (UK) »

Gadget sorry I've already done it!  Grin

What you do is identify the people against your surname interests, click their name/handle and that will take you to their profile, from which you send a PM.  You can't send yourself a PM though.

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Kent - Luetchford
Nottinghamshire - Baker, Dunks, Woodward, Price, Priestley
Suffolk - Rose
Surrey - Baker, Bedel, Bransden, Carter, Coleman, Gibbs, Luetchford, Quinton
Sussex - Gibbs, Langridge
Wiltshire - Brice, Rumble

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Re: Sad and disappointed........
« Reply #22 on: Tuesday 13 March 07 22:08 GMT (UK) »

Nobody minds, do they?
Ive sent one as well.
Just checking all my posts to see who I haven't thanked.
Peter

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Re: Sad and disappointed........
« Reply #23 on: Tuesday 13 March 07 22:08 GMT (UK) »

OK - Julian - I've been searching for ambers surnames in the SIT using some of the surnames on her list at the bottom of her profile - I used Evans, Stasey and Telford and she didn't come up on the listing at all  Huh Huh Huh

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Re: Sad and disappointed........
« Reply #24 on: Tuesday 13 March 07 23:04 GMT (UK) »

Hello Chaps

Well, I started all this and I have to say that of the five pm's I sent only one kind person did respond even though she could not help me.  I am fairly certain all the others received the messages as they all logged on within hours of me posting and presumably receiving notification.

To date, none of the others have responded - I believe it was a case of 'not of interest to me therefore, why bother'.  Which is why it was headed ' sad and disappointed'. All my other communication on rootschat has been so helpful and friendly, even when people can't help directly!

But there is the difference, some people are on here to help where they can, some are unfortunately here to take but not to give.  Ce la Vie - the good ones compensate totally for the selfish!

I am fairly new at all this, but if I ever received a request I would absolutely respond even if the answer was negative, as I know from experience how vital it can be to even discount a possible lead.  Maybe some people are just not too serious about what they are doing.  I was very nervous about posting a 'complaint' as a newbie, but it is justified on the basis of common courtesy!

Thanks to everyone who has volunteered their experiences - at least it wasn't just me Undecided

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Re: Sad and disappointed........
« Reply #25 on: Tuesday 13 March 07 23:22 GMT (UK) »

Thanks to all that PM'd me from the Surname Interest Table.

Lol, thinking about you can't PM yourself Grin Grin Grin but at least I know the Link is there now......

Sad as it is, some people are just ignoring request for contact about a rellie in common....why put their names on the list in the first place  Huh

Thank you for posting this Thread TraceyL, at least we know we are not the only ones. As you said, most people  are so helpful and kind on RC, and without each other we would get now where.

Best wishes Ambers
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GLAMORGAN: Evans. Davies. Eddy. Bradnum.
PEMBROKE: Bradnum. Summers
CARMARTHENSHIRE:  Davies. Jones
NORFOLK/SUFFOLK: Bradnum. Helsdon. Cork. Whiskins. Fairhead.Catchpole.
DEVON: Mallett. Acford, Kidston. Short. Lover. Dampier, Johns, Edwards,Telford. Sparrow
SOMERSET: Masey
CORNWALL: Eddy. Thomas. Maddern. Harvey. Noy.Reynolds,Batten, Curtis. Tregenza,Trebilcock
Warwickshire: Mountney
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Re: Sad and disappointed........
« Reply #26 on: Wednesday 14 March 07 00:12 GMT (UK) »

I absolutely agree with you Ambers and others on this Board.  Common courtesy is something that a lot of people lack.  Nonetheless, most of us Rootschatters do help each other all the time and there's nothing nicer than replying to someone to thank you for their time and efforts.  I usually want to reach out and hug them. LOL. Grin

I know that I, too, spend hours trying to find information for others (and I don't really know what I'm doing) hahahahaha, BUT ..... I try - we ALL do and when there is no thank you, it's "very sad and disappointing", I agree.  I have had that problem with the SIT messages, so I just gave up.

Overall, I have to say, this is the greatest place to be when researching.  It's friendly and everyone is extremely helpful (most anyway) and I love ya'all.

Just in case I have not responded to anyone - I want to say "sorry" Kiss. hehehehehehehe.

Hugs to you all
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BAKER - Cornwall
BARRABLE - UK and South Africa
BROPHY - Kilkenny in Ireland,  South Africa
CORIN,  MARTIN, NICHOLAS, WILLIAMS  - Cornwall,  South Africa
EDWARDS - Wales,  South Africa
JAMES - Cornwall, London
KENT - UK, Ireland and South Africa
KLISKEY - Cornwall, South Africa, NZ, USA, Australia
KOWLESKEY or KOULESKEY - Russia (Kalingrad)
PERRY - Cornwall and Australia
UREN - Cornwall, South Africa, USA
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