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alicemaud
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Several years ago, Mr Alice and I went to Westminster Abbey and I felt a little creepy walking on those gravestones in the Abbey. However, I don't think that those people who are interred would mind as we were only 2 of thousands who have walked on their graves.
I think, for myself, I would rather someone walk over me than be left in an overgrown patch where no one ever goes!
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Nick Carver
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I believe the correct etiquette whilst crossing graves that do not belong to family members is to hop, whiilst holding a bible under the left arm and sing the National Anthem. Remember that and you'll do just fine.
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wheeldon
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Sallysmum, I have a confession to make. My 4 yr old daughter and I walk through a church yard every morning to school. I allow her to skip and jump across the very old flat grave stones, she sings and chats to herself along the way. She says 'good morning' to the elderly couple that feed the birds every morning but she never touches any of the flowers that are placed on the newer graves.
She then picks up all the poppy wreaths that have been blown away and places them carefully on the war memorial (she says that is her morning job)
I don't feel that we are being disrespectful, if there are any spirits there, I'm sure they look forward to Alex coming in the morning to brighten up their day 
There are a couple of people who come to pay their respects on a regular basis and know Alex by name and have a chat to her as we pass through 
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aghadowey
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As my husband and I are both interested in local and family history we often go to graveyards. When our 3 children were younger they were taken along. Actually middle child's first buggy ride was from our house to parish church when she was about ten days old and when little she used to line up her toy dominos in rows and called it playing graveyard. To stop the children from running about, getting bored, etc. I used to bring each a jar of bubble water so they could spend the time there blowing bubbles. When they got a bit older they liked to help find names we were looking for and reading inscriptions.
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MarieC
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Several of my family are buried in a local lawn cemetery. Lovely and peaceful place, with little plaques set level to the ground. You really have to walk over graves here, but I always have the feeling that the people don't mind and are happy that the living are visiting. I am always mindful of those who lie below as I walk across the lawn.
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Nutty1966
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Hi
I am glad its not just me who feels awkward about standing on memorials etc, I always try and walk round them, sometimes this is not possible, so I always apologize to the 'grave'.
I also take my boys with me to search for names and always tell them to be respectful, walk round etc if possible, my youngest son Bill, likes to pick up the flowers and place them back where they belong.
I always think its nice to see people in a graveyard, at least they care.
Merry Christmas
Jane
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julianb
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I always think its nice to see people in a graveyard, at least they care.
Absolutely. On a recent "field trip" I came across a graveyard where half of it was completely overgrown - probably all over my ancestors. No chance of walking over anyone's grave - two to three feet above, yes, but not on the gravestones.
But the previous day I'd been elsewhere and the graveyard was tidy, with many graves with flowers.
JULIAN
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01debbie
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Absolutely. On a recent "field trip" I came across a graveyard where half of it was completely overgrown - probably all over my ancestors. No chance of walking over anyone's grave - two to three feet above, yes, but not on the gravestones.
JULIAN
Sad, isn't it Julian...the old cemetery in Southampton, on the Common, is huge. Many of the early graves were moved from St. Marys that was literaaly overflowing in the mid 1800's. I can't get near my Greats either, unless as you say, I was able to hover above them. Southampton City Council has taken the policy to allow nature & the wildlife to take over half the cemetery. Ok, lovely butterflies & the odd squirrel, but there's also hundreds of rats running here & there. Then there's needles etc left by ?people of the night I assume. Other parts are tended, it's just such a shame to see some of it has been left to rot & be exposed to vandalism too.
Sorry, rant over 
Merry Christmas,
Debbie
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. The graves are packed in like sardines in a tin, unbelievable.
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