Why Can't I Find My Dad?

[candyflossyum]

i know my dads date of birth (19/01/1938) and i know he died in 1987,when he was young he lived in paddington and then moved to harrow with his mum gladys and stepfather john,his stepfather adopted my dad and his brother and they went on to have 2 more children.

the story goes that my dad and his brother were born out of wedlock to some lord or someother person of standing,but this could all be codswallop.

i cannot for the life of me find out any information about him or his family at all,my mum doesnt remember much as they divorced in 1980,she remembers that his mum gladys died in about 1969 but i cant find her either!!

there is no trace of his previous name and i dont know where to carry on looking,his brother moved to canada in the 60,s i have been in contact with him to ask about the family history but never recieved a reply. his other siblings wherabouts is unknown to me.

anyone have any ideas?

[candyflossyum]

might help if i put his name on my posting! Derek Bates

[Kevwood]

Hi, what you want to do is try to find any of the childrens' births to get mothers maiden name and then look for your dad to see if its listed under that.

Kev.

[candyflossyum]

thanks for the quick reply,but i have tried that and am still coming up blank! maybe they were all the immaculate conception

[Kevwood]

 

do you mind if i ask whereabouts did your dad die?

there is a derek john Dean listed in 1987 but his birth was 19 june 1938 not 19 jan 1938



Kev

[candyflossyum]

his name was derek james bates and he died in a homeless mens unit somewhere in london! not very helpful i know,i too keep coming up with derek john dean argggg

[Kevwood]

this may sound stupid but are you certain it isn't

 Derek J Bates born june qrtr 1938 Lewisham (1d 1134)
mothers maiden name Bayley

Kev.

[candyflossyum]

blimey im only 35 lol, i guess there is always the possibility that it could be his step fathers relative??
 i seem to remember that his brother lived in borehamwood (dont ask me where that gem just popped up from!!) i might have a look around the phone book companies see if that pulls anything up.

maybe if my letter to his brother in canada has hit a raw nerve it may not be so for his half brother? worth a shot,lets see how many people i can upset in 1 year

thank you for trying for me,i really appreciate it
sharon

[Kevwood]

sorry should be 1938!!! the year you said he was born