Maddymoss, thanks for that information particularly about Michael Penman and Mary Bauchop. I must admit I'm not sure of the references/dates. Would 1825 be when the lair or lairs were bought? Was 1821 the number in the churchyard of the lair or lairs bought? Even more basically is a lair a grave?
As with Iandj I'm confident that Tobias and Janet Vanan are direct relatives - based on records.
As Monica suggested I've been looking at naming patterns. It has proved interesting but not conclusive by any stretch of the imagination.
Tobias and Janet's children in order (oldest to youngest) were John, Andrew, Margaret and Tobias (only four?
). Two of the three possible Bauchop families (see earlier post from me) had a John as father - he who married Anna Mortimer and he who married Helen Henderson. Janet's father was also John and she did not have any brothers called Andrew. Andrew however was the eldest son of the John B who married Helen Henerson. Two in favour of John B and Helen Henderson? So what about Margaret? A daughter of John Vannan (Janet's father) was called Margaret. Finally James. James was the eldest son - again - of John V and Bessie Lin.
On that basis, the favourite for parents of Tobias are John B and Helen Henderson. Case proved
??
Their Tobias was baptised in 1710 making him 36 when he married 15 year old Janet.
oh well . . . .
Regards
Reiver