Update
I have found Lydia Eleanor Stephens, nee Wilson in all censuses from 1841 - 1881, and am personally convinced that she stayed in England whilst her husband, John Roberts Thurston Stephens/Tuthill emigrated to Australia. Divorce was uncommon, I think, in those days, and no marriage found for him to 'Anne/Annie', mother of his children in Australia. His first child in Austalia was Henry Archibald Stephens, born 30 Jul 1854, baptised 20 Aug 1854, St James', Sydney.
Three children in England, John, James and Robert, gave their father's occupation as Billiard Table maker at marriage.
1841
John Lambert Dugsdale, M, 37, Bookseller, N
Sarah Dugsdale, F, 36, , Y
Lydia Wilson, F, 17, Feathermaker, Y
Address Frederick Place, St Pancras
Source Citation: Class:HO107;Piece:684;Book:3;Enumeration District:3;Folio:26;Page:4
(Sarah Dugsdale nee Wedderburn was Lydia senior's sister)
1851 census
John Lambat Dugdale, Head, Mar, M, 47, Bookseller, Stockport
Sarah Dugdale, Wife, Mar, F, 47, , Mddx, St James, Westminster
Lydia Steevens, Neice, Mar, F, 27, Artificial Florist, Mddx, St Clement Danes
Christr Moore, Visitor, Widr, M, 34, Book seller, Mddx, St Luke
Address 50, Holywell Street, St Clement Danes, Westminster
Source Citation: Class:HO107;Piece:1512;Folio:127;Page:24
1861
Lidia Stevens, Head, Wid, F, 34, Artificial Florist, Mddx, Westmr
James Stevens, Son, Unm, M, 14, Errand Boy, Mddx, Westmr
Robert Stevens, Son, Unm, M, 12, Errand Boy, Mddx, Westmr
William Stevens, Son, Unm, M, 8, Scholar, Mddx, London, St Dunstans
Address 82, Harrison Street, St Pancras, Marylebone
Source Citation: Class:RG 9;Piece:106;Folio:105;Page:67
Marriage St James's Church, Shoreditch, Middlesex
16 Apr 1865
John Henry Thurston Stephens, 22, Bachelor, Confectioner, 1, Chapel Street
Father John Stephens, Billiard Board Maker
Ruth Peach, 24, Spinster, , 50, Curtain Road
Father Robert Peach, Brass Moulder
Marriage St James' Church, Shoreditch, Middlesex
P202 E403 9 Jun 1867
James Stephens, 21, Bachelor, Artificial Flower Traveller, 18, Leonard Street
Father John Thurston Stephens, Billiard Table Maker
Alice Gee, 18, Spinster, , 22, Leonard Street
Married after Banns
Father Edward Gee, Boot Maker
1871
Lydia [H/E] Stevens, Head, Mar, F, 45, Flower Maker, Middlesex, Lincolns Inn
William Stevens, Son, Unm, M, 18, Flower Stamper, Middlesex, Fetter lane
Address 26, Remington Street, St Luke's, Finsbury
Source Citation: Class:RG10;Piece:398;Folio:80;Page:32
1881
Lydia Stevens, Lodger, Wid, F, 56, Artificial Florist, Middlesex, Westminster
Address 42, Haberdasher's Shop, St Peter's St, Islington
Source Citation: Class:RG11;Piece:271;Folio:72;Page:15
Marriage St Mary's, Islington, Middlesex
P178 E356 25 Dec 1883
Robert Stephens, Full age, Bachelor, Engineer, 48, Shepperton Road
Father Robert Stephens, Billiard Table Maker
Mary Ann Thorne, Full age, Widow, , 36, Shepperton Road
Father John Murphy, Porter
Marriage after Banns
Witnesses Kate Tugenburg X, Henry Tugenburg
Death Woolwich Dec qtr 1890
Lydia Eleanor Stephens, age 66
Margaret