Thanks heywood. I had a look at those two links, but don't really understand what I could get out of that. But I did try a couple of searches, but only got no result. Probably cos I don't really know what I'm looking for on those sites. Getting a bit beyond me.
David Fleming, the father, is stated to be an officer in the Royal Irish Artillery, on the 1865 marriage details of Mary Jane. I've also been enquiring re a military record for him over on the Military board.
Oh well, one day... I Keep the faith! Maybe some new records will magically appear in my search results in Ancestry,FindMyPast etc!, Maybe my great grandmother will appear to me in a dream one night, and tell me who her Mum and gran were! Or tell me where her dad's military record is.
I'm guessing if it was all easy, it would take all the challenges away, and lessen the thrill of finding the simplest little thing that has proven itself to be very elusive!
I keep a pen and paper beside my bed now, because sometimes In the night when - I can't sleep because of all the people running around in my head, having races to talk to me but no winners there, - have the most amazing creative thought about a new search. By morning I've forgotten it, so I write them down now. Yes, I know I'm one crazy lady. But hey, it's great when I get a result, and it's great to be a member here and be able to ask for help when I need it.
Once again Heywood, thank you so much for your work and input. It's really appreciated.
Jeanne