When the elderly parent of my friend died, at the end of the meeting with the funeral director she was asked by him, in very offhand manner, an " oh by the way, do you want a DNA test done for your mother? There will be an extra cost of course!" This was her first ever experience in dealing with a family death, as if that wasn't bad enough, without having that dumped on her just as she was leaving!
My friend of course, was very upset about his remark, said she thought it very offensive and insensitive at that particular venue and time! She told him what he could with his DNA test in no uncertain terms, and left!
If it is offered as part of a funeral director's services, (and I don't agree that it should be) surely it should be offered in a more sensitive way? Such as just when initially going thru the procedure with the family, he could simply have included it in the usual list of the various options available which they normally tick the way thru very quickly! They certainly shouldn't have been pushy! It's a difficult enough time already!
This was not just a junior assistant, but one of the Owners, who was going to be present at the funeral itself! It was hardly a surprise to see his partner in his stead at the Funeral!
I actually meant to reply in the vein that I don't think Insurance companies should have the right to even ask for DNA, no matter what the reason. It's just another ploy to save money on possible pre existing conditions and hiking up the premiums for them!
Rant over
Jeanne