So don't discount people just because they match at the same point. If you find someone who matches at that point and they don't match your third cousin, then you know that match is via your mother
That is a good point, thanks for reminding me.
It is only as good as everyone's trees. We're looking for a mystery ancestor too. I thought our tree was pretty good, but when you get down to the nitty gritty it's not. All you need is an unknown ancestor, plus a gt-grandfather for whom you've found no records prior to immigration, no birth or baptism record for his mother-in-law etc ....lots of holes. But you are also relying on the accuracy of the trees of others.
The problem I am grappling with is this. Most people have some knowledge of their tree and their surnames, so it is "only" a matter of finding a connection between their tree and someone else's. But I don't know anything apart from the DNA matches, so I can't look for a connection directly. As far as I can see, I have to look at every match, starting with the best ones, and try to find someone in their tree, or the siblings of those in their tree, who could possibly be my unknown grandfather, and then try to prove that.
So I am slowly try to trace lines from a match who lives nearby and seems to have some geographical proximity, and who has a well worked out family tree. I have to go back 6 generations to where her family tree has 32 pairs and trace every child and show that they lived and died somewhere that means they couldn't have been my grandfather, because I at least know where he lived for the second part of his life and where and when he died. But with most families having about 6 children, that is a mammoth task, and I have barely scratched the surface.
It seems to me that I am like an adoptee searching for an unknown biological parent, except the connection I am looking for is 2 generations further back. So I am just checking to see if anyone has any clues that will make my task easier.
It's a waiting game. More and more people are starting to test, so over time you will be able to get a genetic picture of him which hopefully will lead to the corresponding paperwork.
Yes, this is my hope. I don't have high expectations, but something may turn up, and I have to try whatever I can. Thanks.