Hi I'm back,
Thanks for being patient with me.
So here is how I have traced this family back so far. It's a complicated one with a few moves and missing records, and remarriages which makes it more confusing.
According to what I've worked out . .
My 2 times Great Grandfather was Ralph Harwood b 1855 in Grimsby
His parents were
Stanwix Harwood b 1817 d 1860, Whorlton Durham. His name is sometimes written as Stanwick. On the 1851 census it says he is an engineer which may account for the moving about. It's difficult to find in transcribed records because of the odd name.
and
Isabella Hall, born 1826 in Durham. They married in 1847 in Durham. Unfortunately I've never found any banns records for this which would have been useful.
What I know for certain is that in 1861 on the census she was living with her mother, Isabella Hall. (Who may be Isabella Andrews or not)
For clarity I'll now refer to the mother as Isabella the elder and the daughter as Isabella the younger.
So in 1861 Isabella the younger is a widow, Stanwix having died. She is head of the household on the census. She is still going by the name of Isabella Harwood. Her mother, Isabella the elder, known as Isabella Hall is living with her. As is Ralph,my 2 times Great Grandfather.
Reference:
Class: RG 9; Piece: 3803; Folio: 30; Page: 21; GSU roll: 543189
What makes this all slightly confusing is that there is some dispute about where Ralph was born, and the same applies to his sister Sarah b 1857.
The 1861 census seems to read Lancashire for Ralph and Sarah as a place of birth.
The 1871 census (by which time his mother, Isabella the younger has now remarried and is living with a Michael Buckley, has both Ralph and Sarah Harwood as being born in Great Grimsby. Ralph and Sarah are both living with Isabella the younger and Michael Buckley, and their half siblings.
Reference:
Class: RG10; Piece: 5025; Folio: 76; Page: 30; GSU roll: 848490
The 1881 census (by which time he has moved out on his own and is married) also has his place of birth as Great Grimsby.
So it's a confusing family, but, I think that Ralph Harwood is the son of Isabella the younger, (Hall, then Harwood, then Buckley) and that she is the daughter of Isabella the older, who when married was known as Isabella Hall but who may or may not have been born Isabella Andrews.
If your still with my you need a cup of tea! I certainly do!