Why?

[rainecooper]

Ok so i have posted asking for help  twice. Both times I've been brushed off because i don't have bmd certificates.
I've been reading through the forum and noticed that loads of other people have gotten lots of help without them.
Have i done something wrong?
I've given lots of info too.

[avm228]

E.g. http://www.rootschat.com/forum/index.php?topic=789153.0 

You haven’t been “brushed off” - advice to come back when certificates have arrived is right and sensible and prevents you and helpful Rootschatters going off in the wrong direction and after the wrong people.

In the meantime people seem to have spent significant time finding and collating quite a few pertinent references for you on that thread.

[rainecooper]

Oh i do really appreciate what they have done and the time they have spent. I was just wondering if i hadn't posted correctly.
I just read a few posts where the op has given hardly any info and have had lots of replies with many possibilities and wondered if i had missed something

[Jebber]

A lot depends on the names, with common names it can be too easy to follow the wrong line, so people may be reluctant to spend time looking,  with more uncommon names it is sometime possible to work with very little information. Either way certificates are important, especially if working on direct ancestral lines.

[hallmark]

wow.....you have been given excellent advice and help!!

All to easy to go chasing the wrong person!!

[jaybelnz]

👎👎.  Sorry mate - There's no such thing as a brush off on Rootschat.

[Erato]

I think you just disproved your point.

[majm]

Ok so i have posted asking for help  twice. Both times I've been brushed off because i don't have bmd certificates.
I've been reading through the forum and noticed that loads of other people have gotten lots of help without them.
Have i done something wrong?
I've given lots of info too.

Hi,

I doubt you have done anything 'wrong'... but simply put, the advice you have been given re seeking out some certificates is sound fair and realistic advice. 

How accurate you do your own research for your family history  depends on
 a) how accurate the extant records are and
 b) how much effort (time and money) you can devote to your research. 

Sometimes you cannot advance your quest without obtaining a marriage certificate .... othertimes you may discover that you have spent months following a  prospective ancestor and once you have finally spent the money on a certificate and it arrives you then realise you have been researching someone who is NOT your ancestor .... Then you start over  ... and find another way to break the brickwall.

Plenty of people here to share and offer help for you, but please don't think you are being brushed off when the advice offered includes suggestion to get an official record.

JM

[cristeen]

Please don't take it personally! I have posted requests for help on here, sometimes with great input (thank you all), sometimes with little response, I suspect because there is nothing more to be found online regarding the query. My requests have been regarding folk prior to civil registration, if you have the means to purchase civil documents it makes sense to purchase the most relevant to gain the pertinent info to lead you further back. I know it can feel disappointing, like a brush off, but I am sur it is far from the case