« Reply #12 on: Monday 07 May 18 22:07 BST (UK) »
Give up? No I don't think that is in your nature
I do completely understand having almost the same story, same era and similar issues born outside the county, died before the 1851 and with the name of John Smith.
I remember first finding the name and thinking 'help'...'not a chance'... 'what now'.... and I had been lulled into a false sense of security as all previous research up to then was not only in the same county but in the same village plus a few in the next village for centuries.
So I ignored him for years until I couldn't ignore him any more and like yourself I wrote down all/any records I did have/could find, what potential records could be available at that time, where they were and spent time researching them.
I found a few John Smiths and researched each one forward to see who they were, what the did, where they lived , discounting one after the other until I found the right one and this was all pre internet so took many hours which now can be done in minutes.
Small update as this is the approach I am doing now. Seeing how many James Smith's in ever widening circles outside Oxfordshire could throw up a lead. On Anc I have checked all Smith marriages 1811-1840 in Oxford City to see if James Smith was a witness to one of them and to no avail. James lived in Oxford city from at least 1819 to his 1849 death.
Not yet found Andrew Carney's baptism, this possible relative of James Smith but as said he did say his dad was James Carney a cutler. Andrew was born c1788/1789.
I may have found possible relatives of Andrew. A James Carney wed Mary Winchester in 1771 in Marylebone, one wed Eleanor Toole in 1769 in either St Martin In The Fields or Soho and one wed Mary Mattison in 1777.
Andrew married in St Anne Soho in 1809 as did his son by Sarah in 1832.
Other possible rellies of Andrew could he the following:- From the late 1760s onwards, an Andrew Carney and Barbara were having children in Soho/ St Martin In The Fields. (Gilbert 1763, Matthew Hawkins Carney 1771, Barbara who died as a baby, Ann Carney in 1769 - no James yet found). Could have been a grandfather or uncle of Andrew born c1788. Andrew's heritage probably is Scottish or Irish further back.
I even have checked Oxon wills on FindMyPast for any Smith's 1810-1850 to see if James was mentioned and nothing. This is how tenacious I am. If James was a rellie of Andrew then he probably was from London, or if a lifelong friend then probably still a Londoner, and they both moved up to Oxford for a while, James stayed there and Andrew returned to London.
Researching:
LONDON, Coombs, Roberts, Auber, Helsdon, Fradine, Morin, Goodacre
DORSET Coombs, Munday
NORFOLK Helsdon, Riches, Harbord, Budery
KENT Roberts, Goodacre
SUSSEX Walder, Boniface, Dinnage, Standen, Lee, Botten, Wickham, Jupp
SUFFOLK Titshall, Frost, Fairweather, Mayhew, Archer, Eade, Scarfe
DURHAM Stewart, Musgrave, Wilson, Forster
SCOTLAND Stewart in Selkirk
USA Musgrave, Saix
ESSEX Cornwell, Stock, Quilter, Lawrence, Whale, Clift
OXON Edgington, Smith, Inkpen, Snell, Batten, Brain