This topic is relating to an issue which I want to get off my chest.
It is true that I love researching and like many other RootsChatters I like to help out others when I am able to do so. However, can I just say that it is nice to receive feedback and acknowledgement for research given. Most people do this.
There are a small minority, however, who although posting their requests for help on the public forum who will seemingly 'take the goods and run' once they have received the help they are after. Some other people seem to think it is perfectly okay to send a small thank you in a private message and leave it at that - even though their post for help was made on the public forum.
(Also, bear in mind that although only one person may find you the answer that you are after this often only comes about through the ground work of several others all working in their separate places, who are also reading the same threads and responding with cues and directions, which ultimately lead to the final person being able to find just that right answer.)
In my opinion, this situation is just not acceptable. Why should saying thank you for help given on a public post be done secretively? I just don't understand this.
RootsChatters like myself, who help others, are human beings. We are not a search engine. Feedback motivates and public help needs to be acknowledged publicly. If this is then followed up by a private thank you then great - but I do think public acknowledgement should come first.
Authors and TV programmes are expected to give open acknowledgement for help given - they do not just send individual letters in the post quietly.
I will not name names as others can speak for themselves if they wished to - but I happen to know that I am not the only RootsChatter on here with these views.
RootsChatters often help others by allocating their own time, resources and incur travel expenses, etc to help people find the answers they are seeking. And don't forget that if the same help was received from a professional genealogist this would not be cheap. For instance, one of my local libraries and a local archives charge £30 for a look up.
I know there are exceptions. Someone might ask for help and receive an answer and a problem may crop up before they are able to make a proper acknowledgement. They may become ill or have a technical failure, for instance.
However, when you notice that someone is still using RootsChat; has taken the 'goods and ran' or whether they want to say thank you secretively -
- this is just not the best way of doing things.
So, in my opinion - PRIVATE THANKS - NO THANKS.