Author Topic: Found father through AncestryDNA, if/how to approach DNA match and family?  (Read 1701 times)

Offline Mart 'n' Al

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amon000, I think the right approach is try and imagine yourself if the roles were reversed.  Try and imagine how you would feel at this sort of unexpected news.  I know I don't have any unknown offspring, so any newcomer to my extended family would be welcome as long as we had the same life values and ideals.

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Re: Found father through AncestryDNA, if/how to approach DNA match and family?
« Reply #28 on: Thursday 14 June 18 17:24 BST (UK) »
I have just edited this topic because some unpleasant things had been said and this had sent the thread off topic. I am very sorry that a new member has not had the usual friendly welcome from everyone.

I hope that the thread can now continue to helpful to Amanda and everyone else who is following with interest.

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Re: Found father through AncestryDNA, if/how to approach DNA match and family?
« Reply #29 on: Thursday 14 June 18 18:06 BST (UK) »
Hello again Martin,

You are right, I have certainly kept this at the forefront of my mind - I recall another post to this thread saying a similar thing before I made contact. It is such a sensitive subject but one which many of us are faced with, it seems. I suppose as more people do the test, so more incidences of this will come to light (though not with you ;)).

Many thanks.