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amon000, I think the right approach is try and imagine yourself if the roles were reversed.  Try and imagine how you would feel at this sort of unexpected news.  I know I don't have any unknown offspring, so any newcomer to my extended family would be welcome as long as we had the same life values and ideals.

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Re: Found father through AncestryDNA, if/how to approach DNA match and family?
« Reply #28 on: Thursday 14 June 18 17:24 BST (UK) »
I have just edited this topic because some unpleasant things had been said and this had sent the thread off topic. I am very sorry that a new member has not had the usual friendly welcome from everyone.

I hope that the thread can now continue to helpful to Amanda and everyone else who is following with interest.

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Re: Found father through AncestryDNA, if/how to approach DNA match and family?
« Reply #29 on: Thursday 14 June 18 18:06 BST (UK) »
Hello again Martin,

You are right, I have certainly kept this at the forefront of my mind - I recall another post to this thread saying a similar thing before I made contact. It is such a sensitive subject but one which many of us are faced with, it seems. I suppose as more people do the test, so more incidences of this will come to light (though not with you ;)).

Many thanks. 

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Re: Found father through AncestryDNA, if/how to approach DNA match and family?
« Reply #30 on: Sunday 30 September 18 15:00 BST (UK) »
Hello all,

Just a quick update to say all is well and that one of my half siblings and I have now met. A DNA test was done to confirm our suspicions (based on my knowledge of events) and it was as I suspected. Consequently, he and my fatherís side of the family have been very welcoming and, for those I havenít yet met, have been kind enough to make contact with me, make available many photographs and offer to fill in any blanks as regards questions I may have. I will soon meet another of my half siblings and am very much looking forward to that. It is all early days but I feel very positive and (oddly) complete now that I know more about the wider family. I only say oddly because I have only met one of them at this stage; we are taking things slowly, understandably after this revelation!

Anyway, all told so far, I think that this experience has turned out successfully so I just wanted to let you all know.

Many thanks for all your help and your input in getting this far!

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Re: Found father through AncestryDNA, if/how to approach DNA match and family?
« Reply #31 on: Sunday 30 September 18 15:12 BST (UK) »
I am so happy for you and wish you many years of getting to know your siblings and new family.

As you say take things slowly and carefully as it is a big step all round. Nothing should be rushed.

Good luck for the future

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Re: Found father through AncestryDNA, if/how to approach DNA match and family?
« Reply #32 on: Sunday 30 September 18 15:29 BST (UK) »
Thank you Dorrie 😄

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Re: Found father through AncestryDNA, if/how to approach DNA match and family?
« Reply #33 on: Sunday 30 September 18 16:47 BST (UK) »
How wonderful for you that things have turned out so positively. Good luck for the future :)
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Re: Found father through AncestryDNA, if/how to approach DNA match and family?
« Reply #34 on: Sunday 30 September 18 17:34 BST (UK) »
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Re: Found father through AncestryDNA, if/how to approach DNA match and family?
« Reply #35 on: Monday 01 October 18 13:22 BST (UK) »
Hello all,

Just a quick update to say all is well and that one of my half siblings and I have now met. A DNA test was done to confirm our suspicions (based on my knowledge of events) and it was as I suspected. Consequently, he and my father’s side of the family have been very welcoming and, for those I haven’t yet met, have been kind enough to make contact with me, make available many photographs and offer to fill in any blanks as regards questions I may have. I will soon meet another of my half siblings and am very much looking forward to that. It is all early days but I feel very positive and (oddly) complete now that I know more about the wider family. I only say oddly because I have only met one of them at this stage; we are taking things slowly, understandably after this revelation!

Anyway, all told so far, I think that this experience has turned out successfully so I just wanted to let you all know.
Many thanks for all your help and your input in getting this far!

Fantastic!!   SO pleased for you   :)  :)  :)

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