« Reply #6 on: Wednesday 17 October 18 18:36 BST (UK) »
It is not just you...happens all too often... and although FH reasearch is what some of us do, many are collectors and these people want instant result in a society now that expects instant results in seconds.
I have been bitten too many times by one sided collectors who want everything and disappear. So I am much more careful now.
I connected with a researcher 23 yrs ago, who told me about someone else who had no computer, so I was given her name/address and wrote to her, so by letter over the years we helped each other, shared our common interest, lots of records , photos and stories and 8 yrs in I made arrangements to visit which I did and made friends with her and her husband who were some 40 yrs older than me. We wrote to each other most weeks I visited them lots of times, even taught them to use the computer and when I left England gave them a PC (but the letters writing continued) a couple of years ago she lost her husband and last year my letters started to be returned undelivered/not known at this address, they have three sons but no one informed me of anything.
One person recently who contacted me first 10yrs ago and over the yrs I have sent copies of records, I wrote out personal stories/memories of their x3 grandparent who they never knew/met but I knew as a child, they sent me a photo of him and all his siblings ( all who I knew) and my great grandparents which was nice as I didn't know them nor had a seen a photo of before..... then 18 months after no contact totally out of the blue I recieved a very nasty passive agreesive email from her which was a total shock, totally unwarranted attacking me for no reason whatsoever, well no reason I could work out.
Not sure if it is manners that are lacking as when I was a child if someone sent you something I was told to write a letter to say thank you. I taught my kids to do the same however over the last 30 yrs I have worked with many children/young people and although most are great and some exceptional I have notice a growing "me, me, me" attitude, take and go, not even an acknowledgment or thank you
Leicestershire:Chamberlain, Dakin, Wilkinson, Moss, Cook, Welland, Dobson, Roper,Palfreman, Squires, Hames, Goddard, Topliss, Twells,Bacon.
Northamps:Sykes, Harris, Rice,Knowles.
Rutland:Clements, Dalby, Osbourne, Durance, Smith,Christian, Royce, Richardson,Oakham, Dewey,Newbold,Cox,Chamberlaine,Brow, Cooper, Bloodworth,Clarke
Durham/Yorks:Woodend, Watson,Parker, Dowser
Suffolk/Norfolk:Groom, Coleman, Kemp, Barnard, Alden,Blomfield,Smith,Howes,Knight,Kett,Fryston
Lincolnshire:Clements, Woodend