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Title: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: craizi daizi on Sunday 27 December 09 11:42 GMT (UK)
Hi all

The URGENCY is,  Chelle was given the news on Wednesday night 23rd Dec that her mother only has days to live.... Her mother always said she wanted to be buried with her father,  and its Chelle's dream to do so,   time is running out,  and Chelle is run off her feet,  so was HOPING we could all search / phone around,  see what we can do to help her find her grandads grave
 

We are trying to find the grave of Harry Victor Green b 1906   d 1965   he was buried in, in Watford   his wife who's name could be one the grave stone is Gladys Irene and possibly mums name Maureen . They lived in Vicarage  Road.
 



I have linked the other post,  done by Chelle 71 a while back,   


Thanks all   

Daizi

http://www.rootschat.com/forum/index.php/topic,320248.0.html
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: craizi daizi on Sunday 27 December 09 11:49 GMT (UK)
This is the death,  so he may have been buried / cremated in Harrow, 

Harry V Green died 1965 reported age 58.  Death registered in Harrow, ref 5f 466

Am only guessing,  as i am in OZ  and dont know the area


Daizi
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: groom on Sunday 27 December 09 12:01 GMT (UK)
Hi

I'm sorry to hear Chelle's news - we had the same this time last year.

Probably the best thing would be to contact Harrow council, explain the situation and ask them if they have any record of his burial/cremation. When I did something similar with Croydon they were very helpful. The problem is I doubt whether the offices will be open until Tuesday.

Jan
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: craizi daizi on Sunday 27 December 09 12:06 GMT (UK)


Thanks groom

Am hoping Tuesday isn't to late ...:(
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: lil growler on Sunday 27 December 09 12:09 GMT (UK)
Ok , have checked Find a Grave, Ancestry trees, google, hmmmmmmm . Need Tuesday to get here.

Regards

lil
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: groom on Sunday 27 December 09 12:29 GMT (UK)
Hi again

It seems there isn't a crematorium in Harrow but they use the Breakspear one in Hillingdon. I don't know if there are also graves there.

 http://www.hillingdon.gov.uk/index.jsp?articleid=9794

Or when the time comes the local undertaker might be able to track it down, they are usually very good and obviously know who to ask.

I've just googled "Harrow burial records" and it appears that Harrow Council's register office maintains burial records for all cemeteries in the area. I can't get the link to work on here, so suggest you just google it and see what it says  :)

Good luck

Jan 
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: VillageDuckpond on Sunday 27 December 09 12:35 GMT (UK)
Groom, I have got it....what do you want me to do with it?

Sasha
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: Little Nell on Sunday 27 December 09 12:37 GMT (UK)
Watford Borough Council is the first place to start, since Harrow is not that far from Watford and he may have died in hospital in that registration district.

Unfortunately the council website seems to be offline at the moment but the telephone number for the North Watford Cemetery Manager is 01923 672157.  There is also a cemetery in Vicarage Road, Watford!  However, this is now closed to burials  :(

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The cemetery is now full with no new grave spaces available; the only burials taking place are those in common graves (graves without owners) and the Garden of Rest.

It is unlikley that anyone will be in the offices until Tuesday.  :(

If he was cremated then it may have been the West Hertfordshire crematorium

http://www.westhertscrem.org/

However, should Chelle71 need more immediate advice on locating the grave, then perhaps the funeral director may be able to assist with their contacts.

Also the library for the local paper archives which may have the funeral notice in it.

Best wishes to Chelle at this sad time.

Nell
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: groom on Sunday 27 December 09 12:39 GMT (UK)
Hi

Can you put it on here for Craizi Daizi so she can look at it? I still dont think there is anything that can be done until Tuesday as everything will be shut for Christmas  :(

Jan
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: craizi daizi on Sunday 27 December 09 12:45 GMT (UK)

Thanks one and all for your replies and suggestions,  i know Chelle appreciates it all, 

Daizi
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: Matt R on Sunday 27 December 09 13:05 GMT (UK)
If I can help on this one, I will.

I'll throw my hat in. Might not help much but I will get ringing around Tuesday...unlikely any phones will be answered tomorrow in UK as it's Bank Holiday.

http://www.upmystreet.com/findmynearest/community-charities-and-advice/cemeteries-and-crematoria-listings-in-harrow.html

God speed, Reaybo!
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: Chelle71 on Sunday 27 December 09 17:18 GMT (UK)
Thankyou everyone for what your doing , i feel so guilty not having much time to do the research myself i am truly grateful to you all .



Chelle
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: dawnsh on Sunday 27 December 09 18:38 GMT (UK)
Hi Chelle

It would most probably help the councils and funeral directors if you had the exact date (or near enough) of death for your grandfather and grandmother.

Although the Watford site is currently out of action, there is information at the Hertfordshire site here

http://www.hertsdirect.org/atozofservices/distborserv/burialgrave/

Although Vicarage Road may now be closed for new burials, it may still be possible for burials in existing plots if they were purchased for multiple use.

You may be able to speak to someone at Three Rivers cemetery dept here, cemeteries are usually open on bank holidays and some of the staff may be available to help

http://www.threerivers.gov.uk/Default.aspx/Web/Cemeteries

Although they lived in Watford, don't exclude the possibility of burial just outside eg Carpenders Park

http://www.brent.gov.uk/cemetery.nsf/Cemeteries/LBB-8

or Harrow Weald

http://www.harrow.gov.uk/site/scripts/documents_info.php?documentID=481&pageNumber=3

or North Watford Cemetery

http://www.yell.com/b/North+Watford+Cemetery-Crematoria+and+Cemeteries-Watford-WD250AW-452149/index.html

And just to clarify, Breakespeare crematorium is just a crematorium, there are no burial plots except for ashes.

Although most Funeral Directors will take out of hours phone calls, unless you track down the one that was used last time, they won't be able to help until they speak to the cemeteries dept when they re-open on Tuesday.

You may also have to come to terms with the possibilty of not being allowed a burial in the same plot if it is full. To overcome this most cemeteries allow the interment of ashes after cremation.

Chelle, please don't worry about the time it takes to find the plot, both Watford & Harrow Councils cemetery departments deal with this type of enquiry almost daily. And the Funeral Director should also allow the family plenty of time to make all the necessary arrangements and give you all the options.

I hope this is helpful for you at this time.

Dawn
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: Chelle71 on Sunday 27 December 09 19:37 GMT (UK)
Thankyou Dawn x
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: groom on Sunday 27 December 09 23:18 GMT (UK)
Hi Chelle

Dawn is absolutely right re the time to make arrangements. When my father died 10 years ago we delayed the funeral for over 3 weeks as my sister and her family were on holiday in Australia and my Mum insisted they didn't come home early.

Take care, thinking of you

Jan
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: carol8353 on Sunday 27 December 09 23:27 GMT (UK)
Watford Borough Council is the first place to start, since Harrow is not that far from Watford and he may have died in hospital in that registration district.



We already established on http://www.rootschat.com/forum/index.php/topic,423638.msg2904644.html#msg2904644 

that he died in Mount Vernon,Stanmore hence being registered in Harrow rather than Watford where they lived.
Of course the fact that he died there doesn't mean he was buried there and he could well have been taken back to nearer home.....ie Watford.

I was down at Breakspear Crem (Ruislip) just before Xmas- my dad was cremated there in 1970.We lived in Harrow Weald.

Hope you find it soon- Harrow Council are very good if you email them.
But of course no one is back at work till Tuesday  :(

cemeteries AT harrow.gov.uk replace AT with @

Phone 020 8424 1596

Civic Centre PO Box 875, Cemetery Office, Station Road, Harrow, Middlesex, HA1 2YF

Carol
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: craizi daizi on Sunday 27 December 09 23:32 GMT (UK)


Thanks for that Carol, 

I have emailed the council,  and we have people on here and in the chatroom,  phoning around all the cemeteries / crems in the area, 

Fingers crosssed

Daizi
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: andycand on Monday 28 December 09 00:17 GMT (UK)
Hi

When you do locate the grave another issue may come into it, who owns the grave? I'm not sure what the procedure is regarding the cemetery giving out contact information. When my mother died we fortunately found the relevent paperwork so there was no problem as it was in my mothers name.

Andy
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: carol8353 on Monday 28 December 09 00:23 GMT (UK)
Chelle,

Can you give us the exact date that Harry Green died please.Breakspear Crem have a remembrance book and also I have a friend in Harrow who can go to the library on Tuesday to look for an obit in the Harrow Observer.
But realised that all we have is the March 1/4 of 1965 age 58!

Carol
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: craizi daizi on Monday 28 December 09 00:45 GMT (UK)
Hi Carol,


  i do remember Chelle saying Febuary,  not sure if that helps at all   am sure Chelle is is sleeping now,  or still at hospital ?  so when we get hold of her will update  the date of death if she knows....

T I A

Daizi 
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: Chelle71 on Monday 28 December 09 07:14 GMT (UK)
Hi Carol


Exact date Grandad died was 19th Feb 1965 , Reg at Harrow Sub Reg Ruislip County Middlesex .  Hope this helps .



Thankyou all again

Chelle
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: craizi daizi on Monday 28 December 09 07:17 GMT (UK)

Morning Chelle, 

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx


Daizi
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: Chelle71 on Monday 28 December 09 07:26 GMT (UK)
Morning Daizi  :) x x x x x x x
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: carol8353 on Monday 28 December 09 09:19 GMT (UK)
Well he's not in the remembrance book for Ruislip Crem...not sure if you had to pay in those days....like I had to 6 months ago for my mum's name to go in, where I live now.

Carol
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: carol8353 on Monday 28 December 09 09:24 GMT (UK)
He IS in the West Herts Crematorium Book Of Remembrance under 19th Feb,.
GREEN Harry Victor born 27th Dec 1906 died 1965 Rest in Peace.

http://78.129.199.129/westherts/main.html

Hope you can get it by following the above link.

At least now you know who to contact- they should be there today.

And the main website http://www.westhertscrem.org/index.asp

Carol
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: craizi daizi on Monday 28 December 09 09:50 GMT (UK)

Ohhhhhh wowowowow  Carol,   u are a champion,  ty ty ty  so very much 


Daizi   

 :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: craizi daizi on Monday 28 December 09 09:57 GMT (UK)


CHELLE  where are u

Daizi
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: carol8353 on Monday 28 December 09 10:06 GMT (UK)
Yes indeed Chelle- where are you ,as they are only open reduced hours today.

Sundays & all Public Holidays
10.00am – 1.00 pm   and   2.00pm – 4.00pm

Carol
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: craizi daizi on Monday 28 December 09 10:09 GMT (UK)


Ohhh  Carol, 

i have settled a bit now,   thanks so much for that info,  Chelle has it and is ringing them RIGHT NOW.....

We should all know soon

Daizi
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: Chelle71 on Monday 28 December 09 10:18 GMT (UK)
Blimey Carol i cannot thankyou enough for finding my Grandad , thankyou to everyone else for your help to , its bought tears to my eyes , im so pleased that i can now give mum a final resting place i know she wanted .

After ringing West Herts Carol they have found him scattered and give me a location number , so all i would need to do is go to the office and get the map to go find him .



Thankyou and Big Hugs to all involved and special hugs and thanks to both Daizi and Carol



Chelle x x x x x x x x
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: carol8353 on Monday 28 December 09 10:25 GMT (UK)
So glad to have helped Chelle- I feel very proud,as I found his death on the other thread too didn't I...as soon as you said he died in Mount Vernon I knew that Harrow registration HAD to be him,even with a surname like Green  ;D

I lost my mum in May this year and was looking her up over Christmas in the memorial book to wish her happy christmas and suddenly thought that your grandad's name was probably in the appropriate book too.

He was  ;)

Hope your mum can take comfort in that fact, now knowing where his remains lie.

All the best

Carol x
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: Chelle71 on Monday 28 December 09 10:32 GMT (UK)
Yes Carol it was you that put me on the right track for grandads death cert wasent it , a relief that was too when it came through and it was right one.

I know mum would very much like to be with her dad , i will tell her when i go back to hospital shortly , though wether or not she will understand i dont know , but at least its something she would be happy with :)


Thankyou again so so much x x x
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: groom on Monday 28 December 09 10:55 GMT (UK)
Well done Carol, that was a brilliant piece of detective work.

I'm so pleased that your Mum will get her wish now Chelle. Take care

Jan
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: Chelle71 on Monday 28 December 09 11:04 GMT (UK)
Thankyou Jan x x x
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: Matt R on Monday 28 December 09 11:41 GMT (UK)
I've just woken up to this (it's 11.40 but hey) and I am very impressed. Carol what a truly special find this is. Chelle you must be feeling so glad your mum can have her wish at long last.

If only this thread came about through better circumstances. Even still, what an amazing job this just proves what a fantastic site this is. All done within 24 hours! Well done guys! I am in awe!

Regards,

Matt

PS Chelle, we are always here for you :)
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: Chelle71 on Monday 28 December 09 11:44 GMT (UK)
Awww thankyou Matt , u have all been great x x x x
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: shan42 on Monday 28 December 09 17:04 GMT (UK)
Just found this thread - well done Carol (and everyone)!!!
Chelle you & your mum must feel such a huge sense of relief at the news - I know it sounds strange but what a lovely thing to happen even under such sad circumstances.
Have a cyber-hug from a complete stranger  :) xxx
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: craizi daizi on Monday 28 December 09 22:08 GMT (UK)

Morning all

I would really like to thank everyone for the help,  kind and loving words and the result we got, 

It didnt even take 24 hours from when i started the thread,  to get the answers Chelle desperatley needed,  so once again proves that RC is a fantastic team,

Happy New Year to all

And Thanks again sooo much

Daizi
Title: Re: Urgent help please for one of our chatters
Post by: Chelle71 on Sunday 22 December 13 18:45 GMT (UK)
Thankyou so much to everyone who assisted in this thread it means everything x