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Title: A relative finds the marriage of your grandfather's sister and sends you the
Post by: hurworth on Thursday 11 May 17 08:08 BST (UK)
No prizes for guessing what is annoying me this week. 
Title: Re: A relative finds the marriage of your grandfather's sister and sends you the
Post by: rosie99 on Thursday 11 May 17 11:04 BST (UK)
Re: A relative finds the marriage of your grandfather's sister and sends you the details. 
You had no idea what happened to her. 
What do you do? (POLL)
 Add the newly discovered relatives to the tree and reply to the relative that e-mailed the info
 Add the newly discovered relatives to the tree, forgetting that the tree is public and she can see it


Why wouldn't you reply to the person who gave you the information  :-\
Title: Re: A relative finds the marriage of your grandfather's sister and sends you the
Post by: Christine53 on Thursday 11 May 17 11:19 BST (UK)
Yes - why wouldn't you reply ? As for putting the details in a public tree , some people assume that it's ok because you shared the information in the first place. I shared my private tree with cousins , only to find all the details on Ancestry , including copies of certificates  and other documents. I won't be making that mistake again.

By the way - does this poll close today , the 11th , or Friday the12th.  :)
Title: Re: A relative finds the marriage of your grandfather's sister and sends you the
Post by: StevieSteve on Thursday 11 May 17 11:23 BST (UK)
2018
Title: Re: A relative finds the marriage of your grandfather's sister and sends you the
Post by: hurworth on Thursday 11 May 17 11:31 BST (UK)
[Why wouldn't you reply to the person who gave you the information  :-\

Lack of manners?

It's happened to me before.  One relative didn't have time to respond to new information but did have time to update her tree.   Apparently she'd been busy pruning her orchard and as we all know it takes much longer to type the words thank you than add a couple of dozen people to a tree on Ancestry.  ::)
Title: Re: A relative finds the marriage of your grandfather's sister and sends you the
Post by: StevieSteve on Thursday 11 May 17 11:39 BST (UK)
This is probably going to be one of the most one-sided polls ever.

Everybody knows what they should do and everybody on here probably would do.

Except when there's an orchard to prune
Title: Re: A relative finds the marriage of your grandfather's sister and sends you the
Post by: rosie99 on Thursday 11 May 17 12:27 BST (UK)
2018

Do we need that long to reply  ;D

Title: Re: A relative finds the marriage of your grandfather's sister and sends you the
Post by: hurworth on Thursday 11 May 17 12:48 BST (UK)
As for putting the details in a public tree , some people assume that it's ok because you shared the information in the first place.

At least this is one part of her tree which is well researched and accurate...
Title: Re: A relative finds the marriage of your grandfather's sister and sends you the
Post by: Sloe Gin on Thursday 11 May 17 13:17 BST (UK)
How long have you been waiting for a reply?
Title: Re: A relative finds the marriage of your grandfather's sister and sends you the
Post by: hurworth on Thursday 11 May 17 22:54 BST (UK)
I sent the information with images of the records a week ago.
Title: Re: A relative finds the marriage of your grandfather's sister and sends you the
Post by: Blackwidowspider on Thursday 11 May 17 22:57 BST (UK)
I had similar. Find a marriage that was only a family rumour... Added it, got the info, emailed the other got a response! And photos! And further info!
Title: Re: A relative finds the marriage of your grandfather's sister and sends you the
Post by: carol8353 on Friday 12 May 17 08:01 BST (UK)
I sent the information with images of the records a week ago.

Maybe the relative is on hols!  ::)
Title: Re: A relative finds the marriage of your grandfather's sister and sends you the
Post by: Sloe Gin on Saturday 13 May 17 17:06 BST (UK)
I'd give them a bit longer.  I'm very good at responding quickly to simple emails, but if I've got a bit more to say I tend to leave them until I have time or am in the mood for a fuller answer.  Unfortunately this can mean they get sidelined for a bit!
Title: Re: A relative finds the marriage of your grandfather's sister and sends you the
Post by: Josephine on Sunday 14 May 17 00:47 BST (UK)
The thing is, if I'm reading this correctly, s/he had time to add the data to his/her online tree, but no time for a simple thank you.

I've had this type of thing happen to me, too. It's not a good feeling.
Title: Re: A relative finds the marriage of your grandfather's sister and sends you the
Post by: Sloe Gin on Sunday 14 May 17 02:06 BST (UK)
The thing is, if I'm reading this correctly, s/he had time to add the data to his/her online tree, but no time for a simple thank you.

Yes, but adding the data to the tree requires no thought.  Whereas composing a reply which may include other info takes up more time and thought.

You are probably right in expecting no reply, but I'm just saying it's the sort of thing I might do.  Add the names in quickly, and defer composing a reply until later.  Then sometimes other things intervene.