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General => The Stay Safe Board => Topic started by: Roobarb on Saturday 16 May 20 23:07 BST (UK)
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Up one day and down the next, seems to be following a pattern, I hope I can break it.
Woke up very late feeling really down, had to drag myself out of bed. Another Saturday when I think it's Sunday all day. Did some cleaning and had lunch late, checked in with Rootschat. Off out for my walk, was quite sunny. Ducking and diving to avoid people again, same old same old.
Went out in the garden, will have to stop looking at the dead ivy, it upsets me again every day. Was doing some work at the bottom of the garden, hadn't been there long before the vandal herself heard me and came out into her own garden, singing to make sure I knew she was there. I feel like I'm being stalked by this woman, if she hears my phone ring outside she's out straightaway listening, when I was attempting to fix the damage she had caused she was straight out as soon as I had hammered two nails in the fence, I can't breathe without her noseying. Came back inside leaving my tools out, did some preparation sketching for a painting, was only inside about fifteen minutes then went back out, as expected she'd gone back in when I wasn't there to torment. Perhaps I should just stay indoors, I can't stand all this, it's affecting my mental health.
Did some ironing then had tea, found the cooked peas in the microwave after I'd finished. A friend phoned and I'm afraid I ranted about my neighbour. She said ignore her but it's not easy when you can't get away from it.
My friend lives near the beach, she said there were loads of people down there today despite the car parks being closed, there are plenty of places to park without using the car parks. This is despite this area having one of the highest infection rates, stupidity seems to be rife too.
Hope everyone has had a better day than I have, I'll try for a different subject tomorrow.
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Oh dear Roobarb, I'm really sorry your having such a torrid time at the moment.... I know this is a lot easier to say than to do but your friend is right try to just ignore her if you can..
Neighbours can be a great source of angst and I know it can really get to you, we have issues with one neighbour, old chap now, think I mentioned him previously. Neighbour the other side is a bit of a nosy parker.... harmless but annoying. Everytime we're out she makes a beeline and start chatting, she also likes cutting stuff randomly to the extent she chopped one hedge so low that in the end I just took the whole thing out very frustrating... OH gets fed up with her as the hedge was right by his veg patch and he goes up there for peace and quiet except she's always there as soon as we're outside .. so I know where you're coming from!
My day...
Was awake early as OH was clattering around downstairs, he was off to play golf.
I spent most of the day sewing,with some ironing... now up to 8 sets of scrubs!
OH cleaned both cars as they're on the flight path of a pair of pigeons ably fed by next door so consequently cars covered in droppings!
Had a Zoom late afternoon with daughter, husband and boys who were in high spirits... they been out for a 6 mile bike ride and considering youngest is only 4 quite good... having seen him on his bike ( last time we saw then in February on his birthday) he goes like the clappers and is hard to keep up with!
Watched briefing and got quite frustrated with Williamson, Education minister.. he comes over in such a patronising way... don't think they've got a grip on the schooling at all. Daughters not happy about boys going back yet.
Oh what a mess this all is and it's hard to see how we're ever going to get back to any sort of normality!
Had BBQ steak, Chips and peas! Lovely all washed down with glass of wine ..or two!
Early night as early start... now awake in middle of the night!
You realise when writing daily just how dull life has become and so much the same nothingness really... so glad I've got sewing as a distraction.
Well ought to try get back to sleep..
Hope you're feeling better on Sunday Roobarb
Caroline
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Oh dear, not a great day yesterday for some it seems.
I wonder if those of us with horrid neighbours could manage to pretend an air of casual insouciance which might really wind up the adversary?? No doubt that sounds easier than it is.
Yesterday I suddenly realised about 9:30 we were almost out of bread, and the real bakery sells out early on a Saturday, so I rushed into town afraid it would be getting busy, anyway, seem to have missed the early birds and escaped before the lunch time crush which was good. Hurrah!
Sat on the balcony for a while watching a much busier beach than during the full lockdown, but not as crowded as I feared, and plenty of distancing going on. A football group training at a distance from each other but using only one ball to throw and kick. ???
Very quiet after evening meal so another walk along the front and back. All very samey, dull and boring, but it has to be the new normal sadly.
Hope Sunday is a better day for all.
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Haven't posted a diary entry for a few days so will just post in this one to catch up.
Nothing particularly interesting to report. Thursday I had a Morrison's box delivered. Not too bad at all. Friday I had to nip out to the shop quickly for bread and juice because that wasn't in the box.
Saturday at work. Was a weird day, fewer admissions than normal. It felt like the calm before the next storm. I hope not. Started running out of stuff again though. Last minute rush in last hoour of shift so was running a bit late leaving.
So far this morning been lazy because again, not much sleep last night. Got to bed the back of 10, was awake again before midnight, then woke a further 4 times before 430 and then lay awake for a while
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Hi everyone - playing 'catch-up' again I'm afraid. Sorry to hear Roo that the garden issues are still dragging you down. It is very difficult as we're all home so much and our focus can't be redirected. I think we've all had sticky patches with neighbours..... one of ours some years ago decided to have an air conditioning unit installed! This faces our patio - so not only do I have to hear it but look at it. Mr CD went to speak with them when it was first put in to ask if it could be re positioned and they refused. Mr Self-righteous went on to say he gets 'hot' at night. Mr CD told him that when he gets 'hot' he opens a window ::) The unit is still there but I've faced my patio furniture the other way I just can't bear to look at it!
Diary for Sat: Overcast and dreary to start. Road to park quite busy with parked cars so doesn't bode very well. I would say today there are quite a lot of serious 'exercisers' about. Two lads who have brought the most ginormous set of weights into the park to practice some heavy weight lifting, a couple of people who look like they are doing training sessions with personal trainers, the dog walking 'company' that also give dog training sessions was also there. It is nice the park is so useful but I always feel it is not really fair to run your business in a public area. Perhaps they do pay a licence fee to the Council? However, I am doubtful of that. Anyway a nice walk.
Had a number of emails to sort out. Made two batches of scones sweet and cheese - so looking foward to scoffing those. I would like to try some bread making. But although I've sourced a good supply of flour I can't find any yeast. Not even the 'special' kind that Caroline has found!
Spoke with daughter in London. She's well and starting to get busier at work with new cancer patients making it into the system. Of the staff recently tested for CV19 currently none have it. Which is brilliant news. She managed a 13 mile walk around London! Sounds very tiring. I do feel for her. She really needs some of the open spaces near there opened up.
Had a Chinese takeaway. Nice but not as good as our normal place which has not reopened.
Dull telly and then bed. So stressed out with all this 'returning' to school talk. I just cannot believe that individual school authorities and individual schools have not discussed a 'transition' phase before now regarding the return of their students.... surely an acceptable transition scheme and timetable of learning can be put together for the month or so school left this academic year?
He ho, onwards to another day.
Stay safe!
CD
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Quote: "So stressed out with all this 'returning' to school talk. I just cannot believe that individual school authorities and individual schools have not discussed a 'transition' phase before now regarding the return of their students.... surely an acceptable transition scheme and timetable of learning can be put together for the month or so school left this academic year?"
How can it be safe to open the schools again, while it is not to appropriate open Parliament?
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As we are in the first week of the 'Alert' stage with a staged return to a 'new' normal the government has asked those that cannot work from home to return to work, and those that can work from home to continue to do so. Parliament appears to fall into the later category and can work remotely from home. The fact that Parliament can work remotely from home does not cause me any stress. On a person note I feel perfectly safe applying hygiene and social distancing measures as do my family as we move forward.
CD
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As we are in the first week of the 'Alert' stage with a staged return to a 'new' normal the government has asked those that cannot work from home to return to work, and those that can work from home to continue to do so. Parliament appears to fall into the later category and can work remotely from home. The fact that Parliament can work remotely from home does not cause me any stress. On a person note I feel perfectly safe applying hygiene and social distancing measures as do my family as we move forward.
CD
My issue is the number of people who deliberately won't follow social distancing. It's intimidating when people come right up to you into your personal space to prove the point as some people have been doing.
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I must apologise, I thought I'd responded to the good wishes in the posts after mine, it must have been in my head but not typed in the appropriate place! Thanks once again for the support, it helps a lot.
Sounds like I'm not the only one with a pesky neighbour! Caroline, your nosy neighbour is exactly the way mine used to be before she decided she wasn't speaking to me. At least I don't have to put up with her coming too near now!
PharmaT, I hope the storm doesn't return after the calm. I really can't understand the behaviour of people like those you mention, some folks seem to think this crisis isn't real. I think perhaps they'd change their attitude if one of their loved ones was suffering from this dreadful disease.
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I think when in one way we have less to think about than usual our minds fill themselves with what is going on that is not usual, and things do get on top of us.
One way of dealing with difficult people like roobarb’s neighbour is to rise above it all , but honestly I know I could not do that.
Being the end house I do get some bother ,
The side lane is the place where people roll their bins to for collection, lovely wild flowers grow there which I encourage but some people slam their bins into my fence!- and crush the flowers .
Often the emptied bins are not moved for days and at Easter all I could see were bins.
My Grandson moved them once- to the next side street where there are
no houses .
You wonder where they are putting the rubbish ,paper ,bottles and tins and food and garden waste.
It is my bugbear and one neighbour cold shoulders me ,but I speak to them and pass the time of day and quite honestly they are more embarrassed than I am! I persist until I get a reply.
But they otherwise do not damaged my property, one (since moved )did, by bringing a thundering great van down the lane , hitting the CH balanced flu and then blamed my grandson for vandalising his wing mirror .
Luckily the wing mirror had been damaged earlier than when my grandson came ,a passing dog walker picked it up off the floor and put it in the van man’s gateway the day before my grandson arrived .
The dog walker was good enough to tell vanman when it had happened .
I ought to have reported him for driving with only one wing mirror!
The absolute cheek is beyond belief ,they should be made to live in a commune and drive each other mad!Leaving we reasonable people alone.
I am doing less and less ,Scarlett O’ Hara had nothing on me!
( Wasn’t Ashley Wilkes a wet dish cloth—- whatever did she see in him?,Rhett Butler was at least - well, interesting!)
Tomorrow is another day ,well it is getting like next week is another week!
Heatwave next week so nowt done inside most probably!
I think I would take a tape player or portable CD player or something outside and at least you won’t hear your neighbour .
Or headphones and let her see you wearing them , she will know you can’t hear her that way too.It will do her no harm but she can’t upset you verbally
The trouble is we do not have minds like such people, and do you know Roobarb I am very glad I do not and I feel sure you don’t really want to be the same as your neighbour either.
I can’t think like they do, only tame things come to mind, no serious nastiness but I am glad I can’t think nasty things up,
Cheer up , it all seems worse when there are few distractions .
Goodnight and I hope you all get a good night’s sleep,
Viktoria.
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Roobarb, I think that is good advice you have been given about ignoring the neighbour. I realise this is easier said that done. However, you wouldn't want her to do you two injuries instead of one - what happened to the Clematis and robbing you of your peace of mind as well. You can't do anything about the first but you can have some control over the second. Try to distract yourself as much as you can from thinking about the neighbour and think of any nice things .. give yourself treats, anything to give yourself a boost during this time. I hope you are feeling better today, I think we all feel for you about the situation and want you to have peace of mind again as you deserve.
Andra tutto benne as our Italian friends say :) (Everything will be alright) .. eventually ... 🌈🌈🌈🌈
Just catching up ..
Diary
The sun was shining brightly in the morning so I decided to go out for some walking exercise. I took a route through Preston Cemetery, in North Shields. There were a few other people out taking their walking exercise there but everyone was social distancing. I haven't been through there since before lockdown. This is a huge old cemetery, very beautiful and peaceful and a haven for wildlife.
Today I see that there are bluebells out in abundance; there are so many they are quite a breath taking sight. However, some parts of the cemetery ground is now looking like a jungle. There are areas thick with May flowers, some over five feet tall. Although other areas do appear to have been tended and things still look as normal. I suppose the number of gardeners may have been reduced since lockdown so they may not have as much time to get everything done as before. Sometimes, you don't realise how much work is being done until it isn't done.
Before lockdown I took a photo of a grave for someone. Looking over at that particular section now, I would not be able to locate that grave again as it is so over run with weeds. When at this cemetery I sometimes see squirrels. I don't see any today but think perhaps they might just be too well hidden in the undergrowth.
On the way home, I see my Great Niece out with her children. Keeping a good social distance she tells me they have been for a walk too. It makes me feel as old as Methuselah to think that I am a Great x 2 Aunt! (I am the 'baby' of our family and there was an age gap of 22 two years between me and my eldest sibling so I was quite close in age to some of my nephews and nieces.) Sometimes from a genealogical stand point I think they should feel lucky to know me ;) (although this has probably not occurred to any of them) - for me to meet one of my own Great x 2 Aunts I think I would have to time travel back to the 1800s!
Back at home I see I am pleased to see that I have had a response from a new DNA match I sent a message to and this person has sent their email. From the little bit of information they have provided I suspect this person might be another descendant of my paternal Great Grandfather's brother who went to America with his family and was horrifically killed in an accident at a mine over there. This ancestor had ten children and I have had several matches so far to various descendants. I send an email to this person with some information from this side. I will now have to wait and see if things turn out to be as I think or whether I am jumping the gun with my guesswork.
Added: Now as I write this it is Monday and I will shortly be going to bed ..just finished nightshift. Caroline you are right one day does seem to blend another .. and sometimes it is hard to keep up with where we are. My first bus was definitely busier this morning and second bus just the same .. but at least I got on.😊
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Glad you had some relaxing down time RTL.
Very exciting about the DNA link.... I shall keep my fingers crossed it is fruitful.
Hope you had a good sleep.
Stay safe on those buses.
I found a cousin in the USA, accidentally, earlier this year. Via siblings of my great grandfather that I hadn't known about. We keep in touch now, every month or so, which is nice.
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Viktoria, what awful neighbours you have, leaving their bins outside your property for days, it beggars belief. My garden vandal neighbour, she's also the queen of clean, is outside taking in her bin only minutes after it's been emptied. Must admit that since she vandalised my garden I've been leaving mine out on the street a bit longer just to annoy her, I have to get one back somehow! It's never there longer than an hour though. She can't actually see me in the back garden unless she peers through the gaps in the fence where she's killed the plants, she wouldn't want to let me spot her doing that, just wants to make her presence felt.
RTL, you're so right in what you say, I appreciate your kind and wise words. I've had a word with myself, see Sunday's diary! :) You seem such a positive person, it's good to read about your DNA match and your walk around the cemetery, it sounds a lovely place. Hope you've had a good Monday sleep.