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General => The Stay Safe Board => Topic started by: Mowsehowse on Monday 17 May 21 07:25 BST (UK)
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Nothing worth reporting really for Sunday.
A very wet and windy day here again. As fast as we thought to put on shoes and go for a walk another heavy shower appeared. Eventually we went anyway, and trudged through wet back streets to Oldway Mansion, via Victoria Park, where the ponds were overflowing and no life forms were in evidence.
At the mansion, a small child had been lifted over the dividing hedge to rampage through the perennial border, which is lovingly tended by a fleet of dedicated volunteers, but the good news was the duck pond, that had been emptied for repairs to the liner, has filled once again, but no obvious life form in there either.
I am astonished just how much rain we must have had in the last week or so, though I expect the farmers are still saying it has been too little, too late.
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You do seem to be having some dreadful weather MH, we've had quite a lot of rain but you've had such a lot more. Hope you get some sunshine soon. As for the people who are so careless of all the hard work that's been done, grrr! >:(
My Sunday:
Felt like I'd just been doing bits of things all day. It was a wet morning and although it was clearing out later I didn't want to get my newly washed hair wet so I postponed my walk until after lunch. Had another reshuffle of art materials, I had a couple of plastic storage baskets in the garage, gave one of them a good wash and transferred things into it that I use for acrylic painting after checking it would fit in the cupboard. I used the smaller basket that I'd emptied for watercolour bits and pieces. It'll make things easier to find and I won't be setting off an avalanche by removing things from a pile.
Went for my walk after lunch, it had cleared out by then. There were several people on the field but the woods were deserted.
Returned home and did a bit more of my portrait. Was reading for a while then did some gardening. The narcissi in one of the pots had died off, they've been lovely. Removed the plants as they were and put them in a trough at the bottom of the garden to die back. The soil was very wet from the rain, didn't want to walk on it so the weeding will have to wait for another day.
Did some ironing, had some curry from the freezer for tea. Watched the last episode of Too Close, rather disturbing. I can't remember it from the book, perhaps I'd given up half way through.
No sign of Caroline for a few days, I guess she's busy with her new cousins and of course preparing for the curtain making trip, :)
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Very strange weather round my way on Sunday. Random bangs of thunder but no obvious lightning.
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Well spent a lot of the day either crying or fighting hard not to cry in front of the kids.
Then spent the evening anxious that I was going to get a knock at the door after effectively telling off another child. For context said child is not allowed to be told no and no boundaries are allowed as it "is cruel and stifles her creativity". So child 1 came to the door and asked if my younger daughter was coming out to play so off they went and were playing between the 2 gardens and the small park along from our house. Then child 2 turned up and was playing too. So got to dinner time and I sent my older daughter out to find her sister to come in. Then she knocked at the door and was just with child 2 as child one had already gone in. So I said "i sent your sister to find you as it's time to come in". My daughter said "oh I heard her calling me but she told me to ignore her". then child 2 said "why does she have to come in" I said "it's time for dinner and then she needs her shower, you have school in the morning". Child 2 in authoritarian tone said "..... isn't hungry, I'll tell her when she's hungry and you can cook when i tell you to, and I don't want her to have a shower". I said "I'm the adult in the house, dinner is served when i have it ready and it'snot up to you if she has a shower". She then asked if she was coming back out after dinner. I said "no, it's a school night" and she said "Yes she is, I'll just come in and wait" and tried to barge past me at which point I said "no, leave now!" and closed the door on her. So I was anxious as I know her dad will be furious at me for saying and doing this and will regard it as abusive s worried about confrontation or worse he reports me.
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Hello All,
Sunny here currently, but earlier heavy showers and the colour of the clouds now, looks like more possible showers.
No walk today now, my Granddaughter's close school friend has been confirmed with Covid-19 and also those in close contact also sent home. I hope all affected recover quickly.
The school is in one of the two town Wards which has the new Covid Variant a few days ago, it is cropping up in other places, despite zero cases in our hospital a few weeks back. Some European countries are reporting the B.1.617 strain etc., too.
The organiser of one UK event had to refund 10% of Ticket holders, as they failed a Covid test before the event, he claimed on TV recently.
So PharmaT your comment the other day about the continuance of mask wearing and staying safe :) is not daft at all! You also have every right to deny other children access to your house and keep your own child / children in for tea and safely in during evenings if and when required ... I'd call that very responsible parenting! So stop beating yourself.
I've recently purchased 6 Boxes (300), I was the first wearer round here in shops / inside (1 month before they became Law in shops, etc). I already had a bad run in with a pre-Covid Influenza virus. Some Ambulance crews won't come in, nor the Doc (our Doc's still virtually impossible to get through by 'phone anyway), unless a mask is worn and I don't blame them in the slightest.
Looks like a rain storm brewing now :o gone vey dull 8)
Keep well and take care all, Mark :) :D ;)
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Hello All,
So PharmaT your comment the other day about the continuance of mask wearing and staying safe :) is not daft at all! You also have every right to deny other children access to your house and keep your own child / children in for tea and safely in during evenings if and when required ... I'd call that very responsible parenting! So stop beating yourself.
on this occasion i was more worried about abuse from the child's father, or him making a report against me as he does not allow anyone to say no to his child. As far as he is concerned she must be allowed to do what she wants when she wants. For example at the school Christmas fair in 2019 she was running at me, jumping on me and climbing on me. I said "please don't climb on me, it hurts" and he got mad at me for restricting her freedom.
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As Mark says, that's responsible parenting PharmaT. The phrase that springs to mind about this child is something my grandfather used to say - "Cheeky little whipersnapper!" My own mther would have asked the child who on earth they thought they were talking to, she would have sent them off with a flea in their ear.
The father has nothing to report you for, you were looking after your own child's interests and you certainly don't need to justify yourself to the other child, or to her father.
Gone dull here too Mark.
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Oh dear Pharma T, dealing with other parents is one of the most stressful parts of parenting I find.
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Well Pharma, he will regret that, no boundaries or standards now and what a horrible teenager he will have on his hands.
A child without boundaries and parameters is most unhappy and insecure .
They show it in bad behaviour .Almost begging for some limits as that at least shows their parents are interested .
Think how happy yours are and will be by comparison .
Well had a phone call with my Dr .today and an XRay to be arranged by me about my aching hip joint which is quite unstable .
So a quiet day really.
Daughter called as usual this evening ,Flash Harry’s pear trees are not budding so the garden company asked for photographs .
I am hoping there is a refund.
Eye Clinic in Thursday , my chauffeur son is unwell so a taxi and then a wheelchair as it is a good walk to the Eye department from the entrance.
Oooh, I will feel silly but I really can’t walk far .
Good job there is no puppy as yet at least.
Told you everything has a reason .
Second son and wife were negative with the home tests but must go to Newmarket for blood tests.
Sorry if I have told you that already.
Very annoyed ,had to throw away a full pizza, had not realised and did not see it was frozen ,and to be cooked from frozen ,so in the bin as it had probably been thawed a couple of days .
Must get an eye test,can ask on Thursday .
Positive news , some Lily of the valley coming up in a plant pot where a cutting from a flowering currant has rooted.
So with the rooted clump from M&S my son and daughter in law got me for
Mothering Sunday I could be over run !
How positively lovely.
Such rain , don’t know when the bulbs will dry out ,
Must phone a friend in a bit, recently had an op for bowel cancer and had it before many years ago but this time a non reversible stoma .
Hubby now in a care home with advanced dementia.
Some do have it rough don’t they.
I love to read about your walks etc and activities .
Thanks for all your news .
Cheerio and look after yourselves.
Viktoria.
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Sorry to hear you're in pain Viktoria, I know how active you like to be. What a shame about the pear trees, disappointing for FH. I don't think the pizza would have caused you any harm if it had been in the fridge, perhaps it just wouldn't have been as crisp. Hope the lily of the valley continue thriving.
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Oh Viktoria, It’s awful to hear that you are suffering, but good to know that you are going to the doctor. Let us know how you get on, and what they advise.
Pharma, I think I would be discouraging that friendship if I were you. ;D Your house, your rules, your children, your rules - simple as that, and it’s not up for discussion. Sounds like the brat needs a good kick up the backside (and probably the father too), but obviously you’ll leave that to someone else to do. ;D
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Well I think you are a very sensible lady Viktoria, to take advantage of the available services... no point giving yourself extra pain for nothing, when you have enough other things to worry about.
Is that the longest sentence in the history of man?? :P
How lovely to be over run by lily of the valley... I found a large patch in a garden on my usual route to town..... thinking of getting camouflaged and creeping down there at midnight to dig a few up.... or perhaps not. ;)
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Got the first available XRay appt available ,2 nd June at Oldham Integrated Care Unit .10 O’Clock.
I must book transport a week in advance .
(I could have got an appt nearer home but 15 th June !)
If I do that I can have assistance to the Dept ,hospitals are so big and long walks in the corridors ,not sure I will make it on foot.
I have been silly ,ought to have phones 111, but thought it would go away in a day or so!
It will get sorted.
My bum is coming in handy for up and down stairs!
Nice sunny but cool day as yet.
Have split the duvet ,one half in the wash ,although still cool at night don’t need 13+ togs .
Other half done when this is dry ,then away in vacuum packs
F.H. ‘s Mummy’s birthday today but will be at work so I will phone tonight although as there is a cheque in her card she will undoubtably phone me.
Fancy letting a child rampage through a flower border!
Gosh such things were sacrosanct, bowling greens ,flowers beds ,actual graves, .
No one to monitor our behaviour we just did not do it!
Perhaps it was the texts on the wall of my home as an evacuee-
“ Thou God See- est Me”
“ God sees all “ — ;D
Did us no harm.
However it was just the way things were ,we were expected to respect things around us and any adult could admonish us had we misbehaved ,did not have to be a relative or neighbour .
All adults were members of The Constabulary ,as far as we knew!
I think many parents try to be as friends to their children , well a real friend tells you the truth about yourself ,warts and all.
If they are not frank whilst kind ,well, the truth is never heard and if parents are a bit scared of their children they will never hear the truth about their behaviour.
Little obnoxious brats are the result, never really happy .
Ah well ,mine are all grown up grandchildren too, and little FH coming along lovely.
Spoke with a neighbour with a delightful little girl same age as FH .
She like he is embroidering the truth! :o ;D :o ;D.
Imagination and actuality all mixed up.
Reminds me of something on TVyears ago, little girl onMummy’s bed,smothered in red lipstick and blue eyeshadow etc .
“ Have you been touching my make up?”
“ NO!” ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
Cheerio, look after yourselves.
Long John Viktoria!