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Title: What Makes You Feel Connected?
Post by: chiddicks on Friday 01 October 21 13:36 BST (UK)
This question has been nagging at me for a while now, 'what makes us feel connected'? The answer will be different for all of us, is it a sense of finding out who you are by connecting with your ancestors? Is it about joining a wider community and sharing experiences and stories, what makes us strive for these connections, do we want to be part of something bigger?

Love to hear your thoughts.

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Title: Re: What Makes You Feel Connected?
Post by: Rena on Friday 01 October 21 16:52 BST (UK)
My answer goes back to my childhood.  I was about 5 or 6 years old walking to school trying to work out a problem that had arisen.   I always knew what my parents thought and what they expected of me and because I knew what they thought I knew what I expected of them.   My little brother was a year and a half younger than me and I always knew what we were discussing even though adults would think it was baby babble.

That particular morning I was trying to fathom out why one of my parents had been annoyed with me when I always thought we were "in tune" with each other.    At that age I worked out that I had always believed all our family's minds were akin to the spider's gossamer web of various strands interconnected with each other, along which all thoughts and messages were carried.  After struggling to make sense of why I had digressed from family rules, I was terrified that it had become obvious we were not invisibly connected and I was an individual standing all alone in the world and I tried to be a "big girl" and not cry.
Title: Re: What Makes You Feel Connected?
Post by: Cas (stallc) on Friday 01 October 21 17:07 BST (UK)
Good question.

For me it was the loving relationship I had with my nan. Great story teller of her kin and her mother who bore 19 children (not all survived). Her mother married at 16.  My nan had passed before I became interested in FH but her stories became my goal when I did.  When I found them all through census, BMD, over time, I looked skyward and said you where right nan! I found them all. 

This is what started me, also my dad who wanted too but never did. So I did it for him also.

There are some that have your heart and you connect to, even though you cannot explain why, other than that they are family. Strange, but you kinda know in your DNA, if that makes sense.

Cas
Title: Re: What Makes You Feel Connected?
Post by: chiddicks on Saturday 02 October 21 11:58 BST (UK)
My answer goes back to my childhood.  I was about 5 or 6 years old walking to school trying to work out a problem that had arisen.   I always knew what my parents thought and what they expected of me and because I knew what they thought I knew what I expected of them.   My little brother was a year and a half younger than me and I always knew what we were discussing even though adults would think it was baby babble.

That particular morning I was trying to fathom out why one of my parents had been annoyed with me when I always thought we were "in tune" with each other.    At that age I worked out that I had always believed all our family's minds were akin to the spider's gossamer web of various strands interconnected with each other, along which all thoughts and messages were carried.  After struggling to make sense of why I had digressed from family rules, I was terrified that it had become obvious we were not invisibly connected and I was an individual standing all alone in the world and I tried to be a "big girl" and not cry.

Sometimes growing up comes far too quickly
Title: Re: What Makes You Feel Connected?
Post by: chiddicks on Saturday 02 October 21 12:00 BST (UK)
It makes absolute sense Cas, we make connections without realising sometimes, the bond between family members cannot always be explained, it goes far deeper than being just family.


Good question.

For me it was the loving relationship I had with my nan. Great story teller of her kin and her mother who bore 19 children (not all survived). Her mother married at 16.  My nan had passed before I became interested in FH but her stories became my goal when I did.  When I found them all through census, BMD, over time, I looked skyward and said you where right nan! I found them all. 

This is what started me, also my dad who wanted too but never did. So I did it for him also.

There are some that have your heart and you connect to, even though you cannot explain why, other than that they are family. Strange, but you kinda know in your DNA, if that makes sense.

Cas
Title: Re: What Makes You Feel Connected?
Post by: chrissiecruiser on Saturday 02 October 21 13:04 BST (UK)
For me......it was seeing a photo of my Great Aunt a year or so before she was killed in a car crash at Belair, Adelaide, South Australia, aged 19.

I was looking at a young ME!!!

Of course I never met her but felt such a kinship instantly.

From then onwards I persued the family and am back to the 1500's in Sweden.
Just Love It!
🥰
PS it is her pic above
Title: Re: What Makes You Feel Connected?
Post by: chiddicks on Saturday 02 October 21 21:49 BST (UK)
Thanks for sharing that Chrissie and a beautiful picture, she must hold a special place in your heart.
Title: Re: What Makes You Feel Connected?
Post by: ShootingStar on Monday 04 October 21 17:15 BST (UK)
I feel a weird kinship of sorts with my biological dad, but I’ve literally only read a description of him in my adoption records. We have/had similar taste in music, hobbies and I grew up to find men who dressed like him attractive… though I have no memory of him as a person.
Title: Re: What Makes You Feel Connected?
Post by: chiddicks on Monday 04 October 21 17:36 BST (UK)
I feel a weird kinship of sorts with my biological dad, but I’ve literally only read a description of him in my adoption records. We have/had similar taste in music, hobbies and I grew up to find men who dressed like him attractive… though I have no memory of him as a person.

Some things you just can explain it's something bigger than we can work out. Call it sixth sense if you like.
Title: Re: What Makes You Feel Connected?
Post by: karen58 on Thursday 07 October 21 05:08 BST (UK)
Hi chrissiecruiser

The photo of your Aunt is beautiful. It was also the photos for me. It seemed to me that they were all beautiful and a little enigmatic, so wanted to know who they were and what they had to say if they were still alive.

For me......it was seeing a photo of my Great Aunt a year or so before she was killed in a car crash at Belair, Adelaide, South Australia, aged 19.
Title: Re: What Makes You Feel Connected?
Post by: chrissiecruiser on Thursday 07 October 21 05:26 BST (UK)
Thankyou Chiddicks and Karen 58,

Yes actually it was a wierd, wondrous feeling to see her, I do not have many pics of my olds but that was a doozie!!!
Karen, you are lucky to have pics!
I have been searching for ANY of my lines.
Luckily, one lot was prominent and I managed to get some via the Australian National Library and the South Australian Library.
Looking, looking.
Chris
Title: Re: What Makes You Feel Connected?
Post by: karen58 on Thursday 07 October 21 10:27 BST (UK)
Hi chrissiecruiser,

Sadly, I have few photo. My Grandparents had hundreds but they are all gone now.

May I ask if you found the photos online or did you visit the Australian National Library. I've search the Queensland State Library without luck, but they are currently in a process of digitizing their collection and making it available.

Looking looking.
Karen

Title: Re: What Makes You Feel Connected?
Post by: chrissiecruiser on Thursday 07 October 21 13:11 BST (UK)
Hi Karen,
The pic of Dora came to me through a distant cousin I met via Ancestry. She has done a huge lot of research, travelled over England and Australia meeting other cousins. She intends to publish eventually.
My "go to" is TROVE.....National Library of Australia.
I look up newspapers and publications for social events (usually with pics), marriages, births, deaths, funeral notices, sale of estates, obituaries...everything!

My mum died when I was 7yo, so I had very little on her.
Now I have early pics of her at a cricket match, helping at a red x event, she was a nurse. Her 1st marriage and what became of it, and lots more about her father who was a rotter, and her mother, an actress.
The addresses came from the SA Library, Biographical Index list of early citizens.
I used to travel to Adelaide every so often and spend the whole day at the library, as I am on a small farm in the SE of SA, 360k's away.
More now online.
Sorry this is so long.
Just got to keep plodding along.
My brick wall was smashed by doing that!
I couldn't find my family's immigration for12 years!
 Finally through Trove an obscure newspaper had been transcribed and there they were!!! 8 of them!
The paper only survived for 6 years.

Hope you have some luck as I have!
Cheers,
Chris
Title: Re: What Makes You Feel Connected?
Post by: karen58 on Thursday 07 October 21 13:28 BST (UK)
Hi chrissiecruiser

We may not have census records here in Australia, but isn't Trove great. Although I haven't found as much on Trove for my family as you have.

It must have been difficult for you to lose your mum when you were so young. Wonderful that you found articles for her.

Thanks for the tip.

Cheers Karen


My "go to" is TROVE.....National Library of Australia.