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The Common Room / Re: Father and sons named after wrong father and family
« on: Saturday 07 July 18 01:49 BST (UK) »How sure are you that the man found via DNA is the "natural" father?
Who took the DNA test? You, or your father?
Which DNA test did you/he take?
Keep in mind that errors can be made - it is not foolproof. Have you tested any of your father's siblings to see if any of them are also illegitimate?
Regarding changing your surname, are you asking for our opinions? I think that would be too difficult - and it is only a surname. Changing that won't change who you are.
Whenever you require ID you you may need proof of change of surname, so your given surname may not be wiped from your family history. Do you know the circumstances of the illegitimacy? I know of a case where the potential father left when he found out the woman was pregnant. In a scenario like abandonment, the child may not wish to take the surname of a man of that kind of character?
PS. Welcome to rootschat.
Thanks for your response. Yes, changing name is drastic. I'm just overwhelmed and confused, I guess. Lots of processing to do. Bottom line: its more of a existential issue.
The family seems to have a lot of integrity and accomplishments. My grandmother, apparently, was a bit of a "free spirit" and enjoyed parties and dancing. From what I have gathered from nieces and nephews, the men that are most likely my dad's bio father, were cultured and educated.
I hope I didn't upset that family. Its been a roller coaster of the unexpected. This DNA business is opening up lots of closets. Its not all fun and games!