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For the fourth time in a month I've messaged a long standing Ancestry user in my list of dna matches, the message has been read, no reply sent and their tree suddenly switched to private.
 
Is this a special talent that is unique to me?
Does my ability to differentiate between 'there', 'they're' and 'their' mark me out as some threatening superior intelligence?
Should I stop using words such as Hello and Thanks in messages and insert various references questioning their parentage instead in an effort to get more responses?

Is it me or does a day of real life seem to pass in mere minutes but a day waiting for a dna test to be processed feels like a whole year?

I'm struggling to make sense of the names versus the transcription in this census

The transcriptions for the last 3 names are;
#3 Josephine Hay
#4 Arthur Hay
#5 Ethel Hay

I've worked out that Arthur L Doyle married Ethel Ryan in 1917 in Ecclesall Bierlow. Ethel should be orn around 1890 but there doesn't seem to be a birth ref to match.

It's actually George Hay I'm interested in, he is serving with the Indian Army.  I think I have him in 1911, sergeant, age 30, married, Royal Engineers, occ Printer, b Hartlepool, Durham.
Serving with Head Quarters Staff, North China Command, Tientsin
I can't be sure it's the same man in both census and can't pin down a marriage. there certainly isn't a George Hay marriage to anyone with the surname of Ryan in the E/W bmd index and I'm very dubious that the name of Josephine is correctly transcribed here but can't make it out.

I finally got round to round to doing DNA and it's got me baffled.

I'm beginning to question if my alleged bio father James Townsend 1923-1984 really is my father now. I'm getting matches with common ancestors on my maternal side but none on the names my paper trail suggests for my father's ancestors. In addition my ethnicity is allegedly 55% Irish but there is nothing outside England in my paper trail back two centuries or so. I realise it has a huge margin of error but it's a really hefty figure that I can't seem to understand or ignore.

I've pushed the Townsend line back on paper to my great grandparents; John Townsend, 1827, Worfield, Shropshire and Sarah Lewis, 1831, Preston on the Weald Moors, Shropshire. but I'm not getting any DNA matches with those surnames as common ancestors. I realise great grandparents aren't that far back but if the paper trail is correct it's because my grandfather decided kids in his mid 50's was a good idea. John and Sarah had 6 children that I can tell so I feel there should be a few descendants out there.

Have I just been very unlucky and have a family where nobody has done a DNA test? My closest DNA match is estimated by Ancestry as a 2nd-3rd cousin with 155 cM across 5 segments. I've contacted them but they have private trees and won't reveal any details.  I can't even say which side of my tree they link to. The 155cM is higher than any match on my maternal side including those I've linked with long before doing a test.

I've struggled with my 3xgrt grandfather George Hay for years. I have a copy of his will proven in 1823 which names some family but haven't been able to find anything based on the names it contains. I'm trying to find clues to his wife, parents and three of his four children.
 

Transcript of the 1823 will; 

This is the last will and testament of me George Hay of No 10 Clerkenwell Green in the County of Middlesex Clock and Watch Maker that is to say I give and bequeath to my mother Barbara Hay the sum of forty pounds to be applied by her in such manner as she shall think best in or towards maintenance and bringing up of my youngest daughter Sarah Hay and as to all the rest residue and remainder of my personal estate & effects whatsoever and wherever I give and bequeath the same unto my Brother in Law Thomas Bates of ? Dorogate Hill [it might be Ludgate, badly transcribed] upon trust by sale to convert into money such part of the said Residue of my Estate as shall not consist of money and by and with the same and my ready money in the first place after payment of all expences attending such sale to pay all my just debts funeral and testamentary expences and subject thereto to pay or apply the Residue for the use and benefit of my three other children namely George Hay Jane Hay and Frederick Charles Hay in such manner as the said Thomas Bates think best and most eligible and I nominate and appoint the said Thomas Bates sole Executor of this my last Will and Testament In Witness whereof I have hereunto set my hand and seal the eleventh day of January in the year of our Lord one thousand eight hundred and twenty three George Hay Signed sealed published and declared by the said George Hay the testator as and for his last will and testament in the presence of us James Mc Kash Jacob Evans

Proved at London 18th April 1823 before the Worshipful Jesse Addams doctor of Law & surrogate by the oath of Thomas Bates the sole executor to whom admon. Was granted having been first sworn dult to adm.

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The son named George in the will was baptised in 1810 at Clerkenwell, mother noted as Mary. Later documents for him consistently quote 1810 and Clerkenwell birth details including census & coastguard application. I also have three marriage certs for him each noting his father as George, clock and watch maker. Several unsourced ancestry trees have his mother as Mary Unknown 1794-1810 and his father as George Hay 1794-1839, somewhat surprising given the 1823 will.