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My ancestor was married three times, but there is some confusion about what happened to his second wife and his first child. Alfred Lay (b 1829, Framlingham, Suffolk) moved to london in the 1840s and worked as a barber in Marylebone. He married My Ann Newson in 1851 and they had a child Alfred Lay the following year. Mary died shortly afterwards but it is not clear what happened to the son. There is a death of an Alfred lay in Shoreditch later in 1858 but that is the wrong area of London and would appear to be a different person who matches up with a child born earlier the same year.
Alfred married for a second time in 1854 to Susannah Hallett. They don't seem to have had any children and by 1858 they had separated and Alfred placed notices on the front page of the local newspaper The Marylebone four weeks running in October of that year to inform local tradesmen that she should not be trusted, and presumably given credit in his name, (this is very unusual and is similar to a story on A House Though Time last week, it was seeing that which prompted me post this).
In February 1859 a newspaper report says that Marylebone poor law officers were taking Alfred to court saying that he was legally responsible for Susannah after she applied for financial help (this ties up with a workhouse admission record I found in her name). But a report a week later says that witnesses who stated that she had been unfaithful with other men which meant that Alfred was no longer responsible for her. It also stated that if she could aford to pay a lawyer then she couldn't be destitute so presumably she wasn't given any help.
But it is not clear what happened next. In September 1859 Alfred marries for a third time to Jane Gasson and they later have two children Letitia and Alfred Howard Lay. In theory his other son (also called Alfred) was still alive at this point but I can't find out what happened to him. Also it is not clear what happened to Susannah. I can find no record of her death but she is a mysterious character because I can't find anyone who matches up with her on the Census before she married Alfred or her baptism. Their marriage certificate shows her father was called William Hallet and was a gardener, he age is given simply as "full". However I also found some records for the Southwark orkhouse from 1852 where a Susannah Hallet was transferred to the county Asylum, and her age is shown as aged 29 meaning she was born in 1823. If this is the same Susannah Hallett it might explain her behaviour in 1858 but doesn't explain her disappearence.
I did wonder if Alfred married bigamously in 1859 and that Susannah was still alive. It is odd that he married his third wife in Lambeth and changed his occupatuion on the marriage cert from hair dresser to cutler, which suggests he was altering the truth, but he and his new wife were back living in his barber shop in East Street Marylebone on the 1861 Census where he had been with living his second wife, so it's highly unlikely that he would be so blantent if his other wife was still living, even if he came to an arrangemewnt with her. But if Susannah was still alive and they just separated what hapened to her? The problem is I don't have any before marriage details to compare with any possible Susanah Lays after 1859.
Can anyone suggest what became of his son Alfred Lay and what happened to Susannah. Did she die but it was unrecorded? Was she still alive? If so where was she? any help would be appreciated.