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Thanks everybody for taking the time to sort me out - the answer is obvious when you think about it isn't it?  I'm a member for less than a week so that's my excuse!!
 
Maggie

I have put up several posts but none of them seem to have the blue 'new' box by the query yet I notice practically all of the others have.  What am I not doing?

Many thanks,
Maggie

Hi Burrow Digger,
Sounds like you are in the same position as our children- they also lost their adoptive grandparents when they were small, and I feel you are right to leave it up to your mom to find out stuff on her own when she is ready.  My husband now has all the details of his natural mum and although she died several years ago and before he started hunting, he has made contact with and been welcomed by his half brothers & sisters.  He has done this over a long period of time, on his own and with all individuals concerned going at their own pace.  However they have proved to be a loving and open family - maybe this is not always the case  .  Certainly the older members of the natural family have found it more difficult but they are in their 80s now and that generation had a different approach.

I wish you and your mom the best of luck.

Regards,
Maggie

Our family has the same problem as my husband is adopted.  His natural side has become very important to him, but our children aged 38 and 36 will always regard their adoptive grandparents as the 'real' ones.  What I would say however is that in our case, the older we all get, and after the death of all the grandparents, the stonger the feeling has become that there is a need to find out as much as possible about the bloodline.  The birth of grandchildren has only added to this feeling.  We have 2 trees, but the reality is that most of the research is done on the natural mother's side.

It is a tricky one and there must be many opinions on how best to handle it.

Regards,
Maggie

I'm new to this so forgive me barging in!!  I apparently have French Huguenots way back - in 1861 they were Ivory Comb manufacturers in Bradford, Yorks, and were called Simonett, but I know nothing about where they originated from.  The earliest mention of the family I have found is a John Simonett born about 1720.

Regards,
Maggie