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« on: Tuesday 28 June 22 11:05 BST (UK) »
Deirdre, don't beat yourself up about it, it could be that he told your mum what he did in an attempt to soften the blow of him not getting UK leave. His wife probably saw lots of other families getting visits from their husbands, sons, etc. and would be upset that he was not getting leave. I am sure he made up for it when he did get home. I think a lot of those that did survive the war didn't talk about it to spare their families the horrors they had experienced, and many of them felt guilty for surviving when friends, relatives etc. didn't. I remember reading an article about a wife who described how her husband would wake up screaming every night but would not tell her why, he finally did tell on his deathbed. Whilst she was glad to know at last she also wished he hadn't told her.