Hi,
I've just noticed this topic. My mum gave birth to her first child, a stillborn son, in 1951...and as with other posters experiences, the baby was taken away right after the birth, my dad dealt with the funeral and my mum was told nothing about it or told where he was buried.
It had always bothered mum that she wasn't able to see him or hold him and that he was never talked about but that is how it was dealt with in those days.
A few years ago, I came across a small notice in the local paper telling of a Stillbirth service to be held in a cemetery here in Aberdeen organised by the hospital chaplain and SANDS. Mum and I attended the service and it was very emotional and very moving. Mum was able to talk to the chaplain and representatives of SANDS afterwards and discovered that most stillborn babies born in the hospital over the years were buried in the special babies section at Trinity Cemetery. None of the graves were marked and we were told of the plan to create a walkway of edging stones on which the babies names could be engraved and that the service was going to be held annually.
A few years on and mum has somewhere to visit and remember my brother and he has his special stone with his name on it.
I have recently discovered that stillbirths in Scotland have been registered since 1939 and this is something that I can look into as mum would be interested in getting an extract.
Elaine