Hi willis
I might be adding more mystery
The Carpenter "father-in-Law in 1861, William MILLINGTON age 76 in 1861 - so he was born abt 1785.
In 1841: Dinah and Frederick were in Dartford.
Their eldest child there is age 4 - born abt 1837
In the same Census, William MILLINGTON , Carpenter is in Dartford age 55 or 57, with (presumed?) wife Sarah who is age 64, a John MILLINGTON age 20 a carpenter, and a GILHAM child, William age 5, born abt 1835 (he is 16 in 1851 with his parents Fred & Dinah and appears to be the eldest)
In 1851, William is in Dartford age 66 with a Frederick GILHAM age 10 in the house. And, Frederick GILHAM snr and Dinah are in Dartford still ... one of their other sons with them is Alfred GILHAM age 7 (born abt 1844).
Is there something is a bit odd? Becasue......
The extracted marriage of Frederick and Dinah, appears to be on IGI :
Frederick GILHAM and Dinah LAWRENCE married 6 Jul 1834, Bexley, Kent.
Bexley being the sub-reg district of Dartford. If this is them, Dinah is abt 19 years old according to her ages on Census.
and then a submitted record on IGI of birth:
Alfred GILHAM born 5 May 1843, Dartford Kent, to Frederick GILHAM and Dinah LAWRENCE.
Was Dinah previously married and the widowed by a LAWRENCE - at a very young age, with no apparent issue?
Was William her natural father? Or was he an "adopted" father - if William & Sarah were not biological parents but raised her? or was he a step father if Sarah was her mother who was previously married to a LAWRENCE or was a born LAWRENCE?
Note: I think John MILLINGTON of 1841 (a prospective brother or half brother of Dinah??) was actually John James MILLINGTON.
Who married Ann Sophia LYNN, was a Carpenter on 1851 & 1861 Census with his wife, and was deceased before 1871 - all per Census. There a couple of deaths in Dartford who would match. If he was William's son (but Sarah was too old to be his mother?) - he was born in Kent abt 1821. Of course may not have been a son, but if he was, he could have been concieved in Canada and William did not have to be in England for the birth ........but if , and a bit if in my mind.......William was Dinah's AND John's biological father, it at least says some of the family was back in England by 1821....I think maybe the LAWRENCE aspect needs to be looked at, perhaps trying to first sort out who Sarah MILLINGTON was ? (she may not have been a wife of William - as the 1841 doesn't state relationship).
Cheers
AMBLY
