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Offline Filiem

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Can't afford gravestones?
« on: Saturday 28 March 09 01:14 GMT (UK) »
Hi, just a quick question.

I have found 20 plus burials registered so far at a certain church, all members of the family I am researching. This is over a period of about 75 years. However, there is only one grave with a memorial gravestone belonging to the family. Interestingly the three deaths are 40 years apart, whereas other close family members don't have gravestones.

I have spoken to a lovely lady at the local history society and she said that they weren't a family "who could afford such things" as gravestones. So I was just wondering what was the norm for people who could not afford gravestones, were they buried in unmarked graves in the churchyard?

Thanks, Em

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Re: Can't afford gravestones?
« Reply #1 on: Saturday 28 March 09 02:12 GMT (UK) »
My Gt-grandparents both died in the early 1930's.

They left 3 young Adult Children (aged teenage to mid 20's).

Neither of the parents had much money, and their Children were all out starting their working lives so there wasnt a lot of money to spare ........... My Nana & her Brothers & Uncle scraped enough together to buy a grave and bury them in a private grave - but there wasnt enough money left to buy a gravestone - so there is no gravestone to mark the grave to this day.

I know where it is, because my Nana & I went there years ago, and she told me why it wasnt marked.

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Re: Can't afford gravestones?
« Reply #2 on: Saturday 28 March 09 02:19 GMT (UK) »
Hi,
I just found out, about three or four weeks ago, that my grandfather is in a grave without a headstone. He was an Old Contemptible from WW1. I can only conclude that his widow didn't have any money to buy one, and his children felt their priority was to look after their living family.
Very sad, but I can understand it.
Paulene :)

There is a fascinating book on google booksearch (limited view) which tells about death and customs, for rich and poor:
Death in England By Peter C. Jupp, Clare Gittings

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Re: Can't afford gravestones?
« Reply #3 on: Saturday 28 March 09 09:45 GMT (UK) »
Hi, I have a string of 19th c graves containing my ancsestors but none has a headstone. They just didn't have the money in that branch of the family.

Another line, same time period and financially well to do, all had headstones etc...
I think it came down to money.

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Re: Can't afford gravestones?
« Reply #4 on: Saturday 28 March 09 10:12 GMT (UK) »
Unless they contributed to a Burial Club or later an Insurance policy a lot of people could not afford the luxury of headstones.

Putting clothes and food  into the home for the family was the first priority.

A lot of people ended up in public graves for this reason.



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Re: Can't afford gravestones?
« Reply #5 on: Saturday 28 March 09 12:12 GMT (UK) »
Thanks for all the feedback everyone. 

The family were mainly involved in agricultural labour so I can understand there not being much money for luxuries such as gravestones, sad as it is.

I'll have to do some reading, thanks for the link Paulene.
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MOORE - Middlesbrough, North Riding Yorkshire
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Re: Can't afford gravestones?
« Reply #6 on: Saturday 28 March 09 14:45 GMT (UK) »
I found my grandparents grave covered in Ivy.  They did not have a headstone but their names were on the edging.  This must have been added in 1938 after my grandmother died.  Someone must have saved up.

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Re: Can't afford gravestones?
« Reply #7 on: Saturday 28 March 09 14:53 GMT (UK) »
Trying to post a photo

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Re: Can't afford gravestones?
« Reply #8 on: Sunday 29 March 09 07:49 BST (UK) »
Sylviaann, That's a lovely picture to have...

I feel bad about some graves that are completely unmarked-inquiries about cost of a headstone for one in Lancs was that it would cost 500GBP for modest stone and lettering..  :'( :'(

charlotte