Hi all ( + WELCOME TO ROOTSCHAT => PamD )
May I give you an update on something that has been worked upon for a very long time, (15+ years)? AND got a MAJOR STEP forward today>
One of my closest friends ( "CF") has been looking for his birth mother/family.
CF was born in the "Mother and Baby Home" [ Harlestone Road, Northampton ] in late 1964.
CF was adopted by a lovely couple who have treated him royally [ and may I say ] lots of love.
However, his real/original BirthReg name was not open to him until "recently".
His adoptive mother (Mum) died a little time ago, (Dad) is ill with Vascular Dementia.
With quite a bit of patience and a number of ( quite a few! ) false/incorrect leads, etc., etc.,
we ( another pal of his and I ) have completed the jigsaw.
The current address, and telephone number, of his birth mother is now known . . . . . final steps being discussed.
History = VERY YOUNG mother, YOUNG father.
CF put out for adoption.
The YOUNG couple eventually marrying a "small number of years" later, and more children
( couple, however, apparently not currently together )
CF now has W + 4xK + 3xGK [ ALL very lovely!!!!! ]
Let us hope that it is a positive outcome . . . . . it is a wonderful family to inherit. :-)
Even after all this, it is not always a positive reaction/result, as another recent previous situation proved. :-(
Mother traced/deceased. Grandmother "traced", "connected", "not interested" !
I would always say " Search, Find, Connect ", [ prepared to discuss positives/negatives ] ( soapbox now away )
Ray