slaughter in sussex england, planet earth

[slod junior]

hallo anybody

once upon a time there were two john slaughters
one born c1783 storrington sussex

other was born c 1796 west grinstead, sussex

they both married  sarah ;

sarah langford  married 1816 in steyning

sarah langhorn married brighton 1828

one sarah was born c 1795 steyning

other sarah was born c 1793 cowfold

one pair raised a family in nuthurst
the other in steyning.

is there anybody who can tell me who  did what where and when.

please and thank you

slod junior

[sillgen]

Hi
According to the Sussex Marriage Index the 1838 marriage says bachelor and spinster.  The other does not have any further details.  Pity as knowing the witnesses would probably help.
I will move this to the Sussex board and the experts there may be able to help.
Andrea

[sillgen]

I was hoping that the ages of their children would help establish which couple were which but they do not.  In 1851 both have children with them who were born before 1828.  However the West Grinstead John has a daughter, Ellen, aged 12 so finding her birth might give her mother's maiden name.  HO107 1648 111 10
My money would be on the couple who are still in Steyning in 1841 being the 1816 marriage.  HO107 1098 4/43 16  The eldest child with them then is Thomas b 1817.
Andrea

[slod junior]

hallo andrea
i hope that the 1838 marriage in your first reply meant 1828

i shall consider your advice and await any response from elsewhere

thank you

slod junior

[sillgen]

Sorry - yes it was 1828.  typo!  I ought to know better.
Andrea

[miwenwa]

I am the great, great grand-daughter of Ann Slaughter, b. Nuthurst, Sussex. 1828, who married George Tulett in 1851.  Ann died in Lower Beeding, Sussex 25 Jun 1895.  She was the older sister of Susan, William and Ellen and daughter of John Slaughter, b. 1795 West Grinstead and Sarah (probably) Langford, b. Cowfold, 1795.  I have not been able to find the marriage of John and Sarah.  I have found a marriage in 1816 in Steyning but believe that must be that of John Slaughter, b. 1786 in Steyning.  If anyone can assist it would be greatly appreciated.

[sillgen]

Hi and welcome
The Sussex Marriage Index only has two marriages for John Slaughter to a Sarah.  The 1828 one to Sarah Langhorn in Brighton and the earlier one in Steyning in 1816 to Sarah Langford.  The latter couple seem to have had lots of children baptised in Steyning.   John is a labourer.
In 1841 your family have an elder child with them, Henry.  Tracing his baptism may lead to a marriage.    Have you found him in 1851 to know his place of birth.

[miwenwa]

Many thanks for your reply.  A 3rd cousin and myself have been working on this family for a while and believe that Henry Slaughter on the 1841 census is John's nephew - son of William b. 1785 and Elizabeth Miles.

We believe that John Slaughter or possibly Slater is the son of
WILLIAM AND ELIZABETH SLAUGHTER or SLATER nee Bacon

JOHN SLAUGHTER (SLATER)1795 had three siblings that we know of: 
William b. 1785, Phoebe b. 1792 and Thomas b. 1792 (both bp. 17 May 1792)

William b. 1785, d. 1852 m. Elizabeth Miles in 1810/11 in Woodmancote

Thomas b. 1792  and Elizabeth?  had a daughter Caroline b. 1822 (is this the same Caroline who has a twin Richard and were both baptised 24 Mar 1828?)

Phoebe m. Daniel Harris at West Grinstead 1814

We seem to have exhausted the records that we are aware of to find John's birth and marriage.  All census records point to his birth in West Grinstead and to Sarah's in Cowfold.  Can see no reason that they would marry in Brighton.  I was born in Hove and my father in Horsham so am quite familiar with the area.  My Dad remembered his relatives' cottages in the Maplehurst/Plummers Plain area.

Maybe this is a puzzle we will never solve!

[jonw65]

You could solve part of it by getting the birth certificate of the sister
Dec 1838 Horsham vol 7 page 313
Slaughter, Ellen

Will give the maiden name of Sarah