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While it would appear James was living in Polstead at the time of his marriage to Anne Bugg, he wasn't baptised there and there are no children to an Abraham or Sarah in the parish between 1793 and 1813.
However, the 1851 and 1861 Census both list his birthplace as Glemsford, so you actually need to check the Glemsford parish registers for him. While familysearch only has one entry for a Stow baptised in Glemsford, William in 1808 to Abraham and Sarah, that doesn't mean that he wasn't baptised in there because familysearch is notorious for being incomplete even for parishes they have transcribed. This will mean you need to get the parish registers checked for a baptism for James. I don't have access to Glemsford.
There are Stow's in Polstead having children in the early 1800s, Joseph, John and Samuel, and they may be related but you would need to find a link. There is on the 1861 Census a Sarah Stow widow living in Polstead born Glemsford who may well be Abraham's widow because she is resident on the 1851 Census with her married daughter Jane who familysearch are showing as being baptised in Polstead.
It is also possible James was baptised in a parish between Glemsford and Polstead. If you are unable to access one of the Suffolk Records Offices, you could, as ribbo39 has already mentioned, purchase some of Suffolk Family History Society's baptism indexes to see if you can find James on one of those in an area between Glemsford and Polstead. The site has a map showing which CDs relate to which deaneries in the county and where they are so you can see which cover the area between Glemsford and Polstead.
Once you've confirmed definitely who James' parents were, you can then work backwards from his parents. But you do need to confirm he was the son of Abraham and Sarah before looking at them.
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