Hi Sarah,
When I first started looking at the East Grinstead side of my Mother's family, someone did send me some grave inscriptions of Pattenden Graves in the Queens Road Cemetery. Unfortunately I haven't saved the sender info, but I'll copy what I have here if that is of any help:
George Pattenden Grave Photo
All the legible names shown on the George Pattenden grave monument
(GPR grave number 133107 - image name 3579)
Queens Road Cemetery
East Grinstead
Sussex
England full name age birth year burial year relationship
George Pattenden
Jane Pattenden 1939 daughter of George Pattenden
Sarah Simmonds 83 1867 1950 daughter of George Pattenden
Sydney H Simmonds son-in-law of George Pattenden
Harriet Mary Pattenden 93 1872 1965 daughter of George Pattenden.
I found the Local History Museum in East Grinstead very helpful when I first visited, but on further visits they always seemed to be closed. (I do hope that they haven't closed down altogether). They helped me to locate 'The Old Pest House', where my GreatGrandmother Frances Dyer lived when she was a child. It was originally an isolation cottage, for cases of scarlet fever, etc, but by the 1860's had been sold off as a private dwelling. It's still there, but now a Grade 2 Listed house:
https://www.britishlistedbuildings.co.uk/101277609-pest-house-east-grinstead#.W0ddW9VKi6II also have a photo of the model of it; which was part of a display at the Museum there.
I also found the Felbrigge Family History Group very helpful, and they sent me some info on my 6xGreatGrandfather William Pattenden's Brewery; which I still have somewhere...
I also had much help from the Administrator at The Sackville Almshouses in East Grinstead High Street, and from St Swithuns Church, also in the High Street.
As Dawn suggests, if you Post on the Sussex Board on here, under a title such as 'Were any of your ancestors buried at the Queens Road Cemetery in East Grinstead?', I'm sure that lots of people will tell you their family stories! After lots of detective work, and much help from on here... I was able to follow my Pattenden family back to Jeremiah Pattenden in 1604, although I'm stuck with some of the Dyers...(!)
I can certainly pass on to you the info that I have on Amelia Pattenden and her Granddaughter Charlotte Mary Dyer, Buried together in the same grave at Queens Road Cemetery, if you would like it.
Best Wishes, Romilly.