My goodness, what a day this has been, a possible clue for Mary Jane's death, and now although it's almost 3am here in NZ right now, I just have to show you this email that i just received from the Derby Museum about 5 minutes ago.
Lots of confirmations, lots of new details - gives a different birthplace for him, (Moate, Westmeath, not Newry) his description ... Even a different name.....Etc. Anyway - do read on!
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Dear Jeanne,
Thank you for your enquiry regarding the service of your great great grandfather 674 Troop Sergeant J G Matthews, 12th Royal Lancers.
The 9th/12th Royal Lancers Museum does not hold the service papers of soldiers who served in the Army. The records of soldiers who served before 1920 are held at The National Archive, Kew, Surrey, TW9 4DU, and the service papers of soldiers who served after 1920 are held at the Army Personnel Centre, Historic Disclosures, Mailpoint 400, Kentigern House, 65 Brown Street, Glasgow, G2 8EX. However, the 9th/12th Lancers Museum holds an extensive but incomplete collection of regimental archives, including nominal rolls, medal rolls, marriage registers and diaries some of which give information on the service of individual soldiers.
According to the 12th Lancers Services of NCOs and Men 1809-1865, John Gibbons Matthews enlisted into the 12th Lancers on 7 October 1840 at Dublin. He was born at a place called Moate in West Meath (Ireland). He was 21 years and 2 months on enlistment and was 5 foot 10 and a half inches. He is described as having a fresh complexion, grey eyes, and dark brown hair. His trade on enlistment is given as `clerk’.
John served with A Troop and was a capable soldier who was quickly promoted; he was made corporal on 5 August 1842; promoted to troop-sergeant on 1 October 1844; and he married on 9 July 1845. He was discharged on payment of £20 on 9 March 1848. His character on discharge was recorded as `very good’. (Please note that in this archive he is recorded as `Jonathan G Matthews’ and not John Gibbons Mathews).
His marriage and the birth of his two children while serving with the Regiment are also recorded in the 12th Lancers register of marriages and baptisms 1815-1880. He married Mary Jane Flemming, who was a spinster at St Mary’s in Donnybrook, Dublin on 9 July 1845. The date of the birth of their son, Henry Maxwell David Matthews is given as 4 November 1846 and his baptism took place at Hounslow on 7 January 1848. Their daughter Mary Grace’s baptism is recorded as occurring on 18 May 1848 at Hounslow."
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So there you have it! I'm really thrilled to have this record which came from the Derby Museum, about the 257th place I have tried! (Only kidding, but certainly feels like it!). My only disappointment is still not having his mother's name, YET... but perhaps one day!! This new birth place and name of Jonathan, may perhaps yield some secrets!
Now all I have to do is try to get some sleep before its time to get up!
Thanks all
Jeanne! 😄