Welcome to rootschat from me too

it's a forum full of knowledgeable & helpful people.
However rootschat is a site where we help others to find ancestors, not living relatives. As Frank says, people who may be living cannot be named. You can remove your mother's name [if she is still living] by using the 'modify' button at the top right of your post [only you the poster can see this button]
There is a personal messaging facility [pm] on rootschat where personal information & information on living people can be exchanged as it is not on the public forum - once you have made 2 more posts here you will be able to make & receive pms.