Thanks for all replies!
I understand the coat of arms being attached to a pedigree and not a surname. However if you are the eldest child (women are accepted now) it is supposed to pass down that line. However in the 1600's all descendants regardless of whether they were direct appear to use the cost of arms.
The coat of arms for Golding has been found on gravestones in the USA for the 1700's.
Whether this is a link to the Sidwell family of Letcombe Regis. I still dont know if they are connected to my family or if they are an earlier branch that were already in Letcombe Regis.
The Gouldings of Kent were granted a coat of arms in 1575 and then again in 1619 when their name was Golding.
I have been in contact with the college of arms, who have verified all this. It appears that Henry Golding son of Robert Golding of Maidstone, (mayor and juror) and grandson of Robert Goulding of newherber or new arbor, married Mary Hammon in 1625 Bapchild, Kent. They had a child Henry who I believe was our ancestor.
The painting in the church quotes Robert Golding of newherber with granted arms.
The missing link?
The family appear to be Involved with shipping and also the Golding Hop. I cannot find exactly why they moved to Berkshire, Wantage, Letcombe Regis. They owned land and were one of the first people trialing land enclosures in 1801.
There are also too many Henry's and Mary's getting married at this time!?
Still puzzled!
Thanks for any help