coping with finding out sad things

[medpat]

Most of us will come across tragedies in our families. Life was so hard for many of them. My gt grandmother had 14 live births, 9 dying at only a few weeks old. How did they cope with such losses?

Look at the ages of the armed forces killed in the 2 World Wars and the civilian casualties.

We can't alter the past, honor them. Take time thinking about them and accept what happened. It hurts I know and so do most who trace relatives but it's history and it stays in history. Learn to let go and accept the past. You'll get there and enjoy finding out about more relatives.

[Romilly]

Thankyou all for your replies and support...seems i am not alone
What would be the best way in honouring him? could i get a birth/death certificate?

I got a Birth Cert and a Death Cert for my Uncle who committed suicide.

I also visited Cwmgelli Cemetery in Swansea to see his (unmarked) grave. It's a lovely peaceful spot.

Romilly.

[kcrummett]

That is a lovely spot....Billy is buried in New mexico.He threw himself off the Aero drive bridge onto highway 395 aged 20 .I am now on ancestry and i will have to upgrade to view the USA death certificate if i can find it first that is...I have found his birth details as he was born UK and found the ship records when he was taken to New york aged 7.Will there be a death certificate i wonder though.

[Rosinish]

Is this his MI...

https://billiongraves.com/grave/person/12539592

Annie

[Romilly]

kcrummett, I don't have access to USA records on Ancestry.

However, if you ask for a Death Look-up on the USA Board on here, I'm sure that someone will help.

Romilly.

[panda40]

Why don’t you plant a rose in your garden as a special place to go to and remember him and any other relatives you find. That way it is near for you to go to and pay your respects.
Sometime a very simple thing can help make a big difference.
Regards
Panda

[kcrummett]

Thankyou all so much.lovely idea Panda
Roinish it could well be.is that New Mexico?

[Rosinish]

is that New Mexico?

Did you click on the link?...

"Grave site information of William Crummett (1940 - 1960) at Mount Hope Cemetery in San Diego, San Diego, California, United States"

https://www.familysearch.org/ark:/61903/1:1:VPW5-558

"William Crummett   
Death 14 Jan 1960 San Diego, California, United States
Birth 17 May 1940
Birthplace England
Mother Barlett"

Annie

[kcrummett]

Thanks annie his mother was an Ethel Barlett and he died on that date.Thanks so much