Hi Milliepede,
First of all Ellen Avender was 17 when she was visiting her aunt Rebecca Cook and Henry Cook at 66 Commercial Road Grantham whilst pregnant (her home address was 5 Commercial Road) she gave birth to a boy in the May but he died shortly after whilst her husband James was away in 52nd Regiment.
I have since been told a Joseph Perry attesting to the Hampshire Regiment in 1860 born 1842 near Crewkerne and having been in the Dorset Militia he remained in the army for nearly 21 yrs and was serving "at home"until June 1863 then went to the east Indies according to military record on FindMyPast.He was posted to Poona in January 1870 and was invalided home later the same year was back in Madras by 1872. He received his discharge in Dublin 1881.If this is him when he was in the workhouse he is recorded as a widower.
This is the information sent to me from distant relation.So still trying to prove he married Eliza Flowers I will probably never know whether they did marry
Thankyou for all the help given to me it is very much appreciated.
Kathy
