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Offline Jock McTartan

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Attitude to marriage 1800s
« on: Thursday 01 October 20 13:41 BST (UK) »
Hi!

Does anyone know what the attitude to a younger man marrying an older female was in England late 1800's? Was this frowned upon?

I have a marriage certificate which in everyway matches in with all other details for the male in question apart from his age is given as 23 when he would have been 18 (Census, birth cert etc evidences this). It was witnessed by parents so it's not that he didn't have permission to marry and was faking it.

One thing that came to mind, his bride (age etc all matches with what I have) is 22, he would be 18, it's marked down as 23 - would this be to seemingly marry as older than the bride or would this not have been an issue in 1889 England?

Hope that makes sense!

Thanks :)
Whyte/White (Ireland), Craig (Scotland), Bell (Scotland), Willmott/Wilmot (England)

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Re: Attitude to marriage 1800s
« Reply #1 on: Thursday 01 October 20 14:16 BST (UK) »
Perhaps he didn't want his wife to know that he was so much younger than her.
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Re: Attitude to marriage 1800s
« Reply #2 on: Thursday 01 October 20 14:27 BST (UK) »
It was not unusual for one or other of the couple to adjust their ages when there was an age difference.  Sometimes there can be a huge age difference between the couple, what  you have is a small difference and quite understandable groom upped his age.
CHOULES All ,  COKER Harwich Essex & Rochester Kent 
COLE Gt. Oakley, & Lt. Oakley, Essex.
DUNCAN Kent
EVERITT Colchester,  Dovercourt & Harwich Essex
GULLIVER/GULLOFER Fifehead Magdalen Dorset
HORSCROFT Kent.
KING Sturminster Newton, Dorset. MONK Odiham Ham.
SCOTT Wrabness, Essex
WILKINS Stour Provost, Dorset.
WICKHAM All in North Essex.
WICKHAM Medway Towns, Kent from 1880
WICKHAM, Ipswich, Suffolk.


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Re: Attitude to marriage 1800s
« Reply #3 on: Thursday 01 October 20 14:43 BST (UK) »
My great gran wed a man 2 years her junior. All census and birth and death records confirm this. She deducted 2 years off her age when she married my great grandfather. As they never had to provide proof of birth for an early 1900s marriage, the registrar would be none the wiser.
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LONDON, Coombs, Roberts, Auber, Helsdon, Fradine, Morin, Goodacre
DORSET Coombs, Munday
NORFOLK Helsdon, Riches, Harbord, Budery
KENT Roberts, Goodacre
SUSSEX Walder, Boniface, Dinnage, Standen, Lee, Botten, Wickham, Jupp
SUFFOLK Titshall, Frost, Fairweather, Mayhew, Archer, Eade, Scarfe
DURHAM Stewart, Musgrave, Wilson, Forster
SCOTLAND Stewart in Selkirk
USA Musgrave, Saix
ESSEX Cornwell, Stock, Quilter, Lawrence, Whale, Clift
OXON Edgington, Smith, Inkpen, Snell, Batten, Brain

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Re: Attitude to marriage 1800s
« Reply #4 on: Thursday 01 October 20 14:50 BST (UK) »
Many thanks everyone! Stops the wee niggle got the wrong certificate!  :P
Whyte/White (Ireland), Craig (Scotland), Bell (Scotland), Willmott/Wilmot (England)

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Re: Attitude to marriage 1800s
« Reply #5 on: Thursday 01 October 20 17:08 BST (UK) »
  My gr gr grandfather married a woman 7 years his senior. It was a village wedding, so everyone would have known! Too early for ages on the marriage record, but the 1851 census shows the age gap. (First child baptised 2 months later.)
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Re: Attitude to marriage 1800s
« Reply #6 on: Thursday 01 October 20 21:31 BST (UK) »
It was quite common actually. I have someone born in 1752 who wed a woman born in 1740. They wed in 1775 and she died in 1780 after having 3 children. So she would have been 40 when she died and him 28.
Researching:

LONDON, Coombs, Roberts, Auber, Helsdon, Fradine, Morin, Goodacre
DORSET Coombs, Munday
NORFOLK Helsdon, Riches, Harbord, Budery
KENT Roberts, Goodacre
SUSSEX Walder, Boniface, Dinnage, Standen, Lee, Botten, Wickham, Jupp
SUFFOLK Titshall, Frost, Fairweather, Mayhew, Archer, Eade, Scarfe
DURHAM Stewart, Musgrave, Wilson, Forster
SCOTLAND Stewart in Selkirk
USA Musgrave, Saix
ESSEX Cornwell, Stock, Quilter, Lawrence, Whale, Clift
OXON Edgington, Smith, Inkpen, Snell, Batten, Brain