Whilst on Ancestry I came across a marriage reference to; Jas. Norman to Hatley Eltham 23-9-1789 in Hampshire (no parish listed). FHL Film No. 1278952
I do have some CDs from the Hants FHS but so far the above marriage place has eluded me.
I realise the above info you may already have seen but thought I would just recap.
Alan
The date is the same as the bond for the first "marriage" which I don't believe ever took place. I have found a James Norman bapt in Westbury on Trym s/o John and Hannah.
I have only seen a transcription of that bond, but it seems the intended marriage place was Westbury on Trym (groom's place of residence) rather than Hetty's. They're about 45 miles apart. As to the Hampshire reference, there is also a Hannington in Hampshire. It wouldn't be the first time I've seen Family Search get the wrong county for villages which have duplicates in one or more counties.
There is a probate for a Hester Aston in 1852 in Buscott and a likely Hester on 1841 census. I haven't found her in 1851 or a death yet. She may have died before 1851 and probate delayed a bit.
There are two Eltham girls b Christian Malford after James Eltham's marriage to Mary Crew (according to census records) but not able to find baptism records