I am going to sound pompous probably ,whilst seeing individual people’s needs and natural longings for family especially when there are grave circumstances ,I try to think of the greater picture..
My daughter had carefully thought out a plan fir Christmas whereby we ( she and her two brothers and myself ) would at least all see each other all together .This has not happened since my husband died 2014.
However we have had to open our minds to the changing rates of infection and that it will most probably not be possible and maybe will never be again.
After years of three generation for 50+ years all round my table on Christmas Day that thought is painful.
However, if it keeps us all safe ,especially the young ones it has to be.
I may never see my newest great grandchild, due November 2 nd nor the super little boy who is Flash Harry again.
I see my first son now and again when he is well enough to drive from
Bolton .
My son in Berkshire not for almost three years I think, ,my daughter in Suffolk and my grandchildren and g grandson in Suffolk ,I saw this Summer.
I have this week cancelled a visit to see the 93 year old daughter of the very kind people with whom I lived for a time when an evacuee.
She was like a big sister / mother to me and means more then my own
sister .She too is failing fast , there can’t be much time .
But if it has to be we will keep apart , limit contacts ,make things as easy for her son,now her main carer twenty four hours a day week in week out.
I am not minimising others’ natural longings especially when time is of the essence but some people are being very lax and seem to get away with it but the conscientious self denying ones pay a price ,not seeing family and not visiting terminally ill relatives in efforts to keep infection numbers down so it hurts when we see others gadding about .
How important is a football match by comparison with Rosinish’s situation?
A line has to be drawn somewhere and I too think we have to see the safety of the greater number but boy it inflames me when I see crowds at non essential events , when others are trying so hard ,missing out on family things in the hope they are helping us all to get on top of this pandemic.
The advice has been “ woolly “ from the start, “ fuzzies “ is the term used at lectures when things are not clear ,not easy to grasp and open to misinterpretation .
Why are we such a fuzzy nation?
Someone have some backbone and be dictatorial for once!
We all know people, groups , who are not being fair whilst we are trying our best.
It hurts, rankles and downright annoys, but we won’t improve things if we join them .
Easy said, it hurts that I may miss seeing my friend again, it hurts that I might never see my two far away children ,grandchildren and great grandchildren ,but if they are safe that is the most important thing.
I had not seen my father for two years ,living abroad and family circumstances ,when he died,.
What guilt that gives me, it really hurts.
Nothing I can do now nor sadly at the time ,we were going to visit four days after he suddenly died ,was only in hospital a day.
So I can see both points of view .
Every day you see people not adhering to given advice .
Recently the hand gel and stuff for sanitising has become not so “ in your face” ,I had to look for it at Morrison’s on Saturday, someone had left a trolley right in front of it! - there was a sort of security guard standing close by too!
Off my soapbox now, and hope Rosinish is able to see her sibling ,that you all keep safe and well and if in similar circumstances to Rosinish you too can
visit .
Viktoria.
