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Offline zetlander

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Dilemma
« on: Friday 06 October 23 18:57 BST (UK) »
Knowing my interest if family history my neighbour asked me if I could help trace his friend's birth mother - the friend had been adopted. 
Took a while and a bit of luck and I think I have identified her - she is now deceased I have not contacted her family.
Sadly the friend died suddenly.
It seems the friend was desperate to find details of his birth mother as he wanted to share the information with his family.
My dilemma is should I pass on the information I have to the friends children - two sisters in their early fifties?
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Re: Dilemma
« Reply #1 on: Friday 06 October 23 19:02 BST (UK) »
There is a middle way I guess. You could let them know that your friend asked you to find out, and that you've managed to work out who their biological Grandmother was, and that you are happy to give them that information, if they want it.

Then, they've got the right to refusal if they don't want to know, but they are also given the chance to find out if they do want to know.
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Re: Dilemma
« Reply #2 on: Friday 06 October 23 19:28 BST (UK) »
I agree with Stanwix.

Work has been done and I consider this part of the family estate.

It's up to the family to decide whether they want this.
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« Reply #3 on: Friday 06 October 23 22:19 BST (UK) »
I would agree with Stanwix Suggestion.
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