Hi Donna,
I just read through the whole set of posts again, but I'm having difficulty getting a handle on it all as I haven't looked at this for a while.
As regards Falleniceangel, I can only say that I've had several experiences where I thought people didn't want to answer me, but it turned out that they were just too busy or didn't get the message or something. It certainly sounds like she wanted to contact you.
I would try PM'ing her again, giving her your email address and asking for hers. If you already gave her your email address, don't forget to check your spam folder, though if she sent you a message some time ago and it ended up in your spam folder, it might not be there any more.
Wishing you the best of luck.
Alan
P.S. I might perhaps add to this that it appears that the records from British India are fairly incomplete, as far as I can gather. I finally made it to the British Library last year to do some research on someone's family. I didn't find what I was looking for there, but actually looking at how the records were arranged and stored there enabled me to make a breakthrough afterwards on the Internet. The surname I was looking for was a double barrelled one, "Austen Lewis", but I found a bunch of records, some with the surname of Lewis with Austen or Austin as a first name. I am very far from being an expert in these records, but I can certainly understand Falleniceangel's initial post, where she says she can't find the Indian records. They may simply not be there or they may be there in some variant of the expected name perhaps.