I don't even remember the funeral. I remember being at her house after and all her things were being divided between family. I hated that...
I know very little about Joseph Bailey. But I do know that Nelly had an affair and was pregnant when she left Joseph and the children. My mum says she lived with someone by the name of Jackson - he had a farm. But he died, she then moved to Whitehaven where she met John. My mum says he was the best of them. Accept Joseph. My mum had Joseph and two of her youngest signings live with her when she was fairly newly married to my dad. I think that your dad is her half brother, he was only about 4 when she got married.
Poor Nelly had a bad start in life. But I guess the time her mother was young and went into service as a servant, no contraception etc... They had little choice but to put their babies into care. Her adopted parent was a single lady, a school mistress. She did everything for Nelly... Nelly never had money of her own, even when she started working as a servent herself. Her mother got her wages and bought everything Nelly would need.
I have a picture of her with my mum, me and my daughter the Christmas before she died. Also have a pic of her at my wedding. Maybe I could email them to you if you like?
I could also email you a screen shot of what I have of her family tree..