« Reply #16 on: Sunday 19 April 15 14:10 BST (UK) »
For me I don't tell if I am not asked, if asked I tell the truth!
When I began my FH the 'family' would say " let sleeping dogs lie" so gave me little to no information. When I spoke to my Grandmother, I thought she was more forth coming and helpful.... I know better than that now, she did tell me some things but deliberately lied about other things and yes it was a deliberate lie and to stop me finding out a "secret"
30years on and with record proof of my ancestry I was never asked and was never told, in that time in conversations about family I might slip in something such as " he is not buried where his grave stone is, but in the next village" and my mother would behave like she knew already ( she didn't) .
She never once asked about my research, however I do have two FH files one that is true and one that has little detailed information in it, leaving that on the coffee table a few year ago on purpose I caught her having a peek and saw the relief on her face when she didn't find any of the so called "secrets" in it, only then did she tell me that my cousin had started researching and he may be interested in what I have( as she really does think that records are not available for me to find out). Told her he needs to ask then!
For me in my situation I am perfectly happy not to advertise her's and the so called family secrets, I just need to know for me and I know them all far more than they are hiding or even aware of but why rock the boat when she is happy. If she ever asked me directly I would show her the real file.
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