http://www.parliament.uk/commons/lib/research/briefings/snha-03634.pdfThe House of Commons has issued guidelines on Unsafe Headstones in Cemeteries which I found out about from a letter sent to our parish clerk from Harriet Harman. See page 7 of the above document link.
My own recent experience of a family headstone in Shrivenham, Oxfordshire was positive in that the Church Warden advertised for family to come forward regarding two unsafe headstones (one was my family) and from information given they were able to contact us. Although we had already made plans to restore the headstone it had not been unsafe when we had last seen it last autumn. However, the cold winter had cracked the remaining cement.
My contact with both the Church Warden and the County Council officer (the graveyard is a closed graveyard and maintained by the County Council) was very positive.
The problem many families have is that it is so expensive to have repairs done.
Around this area of Oxfordshire much voluntary work has been done over the past few years to tidy up churchyards and make them peaceful havens, but people will always disagree on what should be done.
Many people want ivy and lichen left alone, many want it removed and the arguments weigh evenly for each side. Ivy does dreadful damage to some types of stone, but some old headstones are literally being held together by ivy.
Some people want buried headstones left buried. In our churchyard we have unburied them to transcribe the details arguing that although uncovering them may lead to them weathering more, they cannot be transcribed unless they are uncovered and therein the argument goes around in circles.
My suggestion would be for more people to transcribe headstones in their local churchyard - if it has not already been done. We have spent 5 years slowly transcribing the headstones in different sections of our churchyard and although it is quite difficult, it is also very rewarding and a fun day for everyone.
Some people don't like children playing in churchyards. My local church has a path straight through the middle on the way to the childrens playground. I like to think that the sound of childrens laughter makes a churchyard more uplifting.
Whatever our different thoughts it is important that churchyards are maintained and where necessary, restored but we all need to do our bit.
Cello