I have a question, Do other people feel a sense of belonging when they put their family tree together? Especially when we have old photo's to look at and see family resemblances.
And in this modern world of ours where anything goes, how do we add and explain in our tree's when a woman has another woman as a "life partner" and has a child my artificial insemination?
Will this child feel a sense of loss not knowing or being able to discover his fathers side of the family. I'm afraid I would feel cheated.
Same applies for adopted children, which is very sad.
Janet
"I have a question, Do other people feel a sense of belonging when they put their family tree together"Hi,
I'm going to be different here with my reply , but this is honestly how I feel;
No I do not feel a sense of belonging just because they are my ancestors - really I don't.
I feel a belonging to the people I know and knew in person , my mum , my dad and my grandparents, aunts and uncles etc
I just enjoy tracing my ancestors and an piecing it together. I don't know if my GG G whatever was actually like in person, he/she might have been a horrible person in real life for all I know - a drunkard , a wife beater etc etc - How do I know what these people were really, really like in person, in their private lives??.
I also get wrapped up in my husbands family as much as I do with my tree, and they are no blood line of mine of course - I enjoy tracing them as much as my own.
Some lines I can sort of "see" if they were a nice person by the movements they made ( for example my husband's great great grandfather - his step daughter actually named him on her marriage cert as her father - she would have known her real father as he died when she was 12)
" Will this child feel a sense of loss not knowing or being able to discover his fathers side of the family. I'm afraid I would feel cheated.at the end of the day"Can I or anyone else really prove the paternal line is true? My father may not be my father for all I know - my mum may have slept with someone else. ( she didn't to my knowledge,and I could never see her do that either , but you know what I mean) - my grandfather may not be grandfather and so on. I really take the male line with a pinch of salt.
So no I don't feel a
real sense of belonging with the generations before me
that I never knew in person . I only feel it with with the people I love ,know and knew , and that is all that matters to me - the people I actually know , and knew , my friends and family whether they are my blood or not