Upsetting genealogy?

[Bitza 5]

i felt sad that my mum had a still birth and had no photos of my sister ( not like today you get photos) mum often spoke of my sister and there was never a birth or any document to say she was ever born.

 to me this is sad as its like my sister is just a name. mum had given her with a number her year of birth (just like in the army or prison)

i have since found out i can get info on the birth. which to me will be a closure as it will give my sister a place in the family as i am going to get the documents required  which will show proof of her existence and not just a name and number.

up untill just a few days ago i never knew any one could get such proof.

because of the sensitive nature i will be happy to provide information on how to get this document if any one wants to PM me as I'm not sure where to put info on the site regarding a still birth.
                                  Bitz

[keenbutconfused]

I've acquired lots of death certificates for ancestors (as one does) and most of them give fairly common causes of death - apoplexy / tb / the usual stuff, but I was a bit taken aback when i got a cert for one of my ggg g/fathers - he died of Cancer of the Tongue

I just think that must have been horrible.  He was a stone mason and I wonder if that had anything to do with it.

[bearkat]

I wonder if he smoked a pipe?

[Simon G.]

he died of Cancer of the Tongue

Nasty.  Can't say I've come accross that one in my family fortunately, which is a surprise since most everyone in my family died from one form of cancer or another.

[sallysmum]

I got rather upset when I received the death cert for whom I thought was my gg grandfather.  This poor chap died in the work house in a particularly upsetting way.  I then discovered that he probably wasn't my rellie, as the son I thought was my g grandfather died at the age of  6 months, followed closely by his mother.  I have been unable to trace the family, so I don't know what happened in the intervening years prior to his admission into the workhouse, bu the more I think of this poor chap and how he lost his loved ones, and maybe the fact that he may have been the last of his line saddens me.  Am I the only one who has remembered him 150 years later?

Sallysmum

[kerryb]

How sad, at least he is remembered by someone, even if you aren't a relative sallysmum.

Kerry

[squidgychoddah]

Hi Bill749

I have visited Tyne Cot, and found it very moving, also went to the Menine Gate, the memorial was heart rending, cried like a baby, didn't know until i got home that my g uncle was buried in a cemetary just round the corner.. Whilst in Belgium visited many cemetaries, all having the same effect on me, also went to the fields where the fighting was, it was very eerie.

Gina

[Simon G.]

didn't know until i got home that my g uncle was buried in a cemetary just round the corner

That's always the way, and always irritating.  I visited Tyne Cot myself when I was in school, only to discover I've got two great-uncles buried there (one from my dad's side, one from my mum's).  Makes me sad that you can be quite literally so close, yet so far.

[curiousfox]

my grandfather lost his son just six weeks before the end of the 1st world war. when i found that his 1st wife died just 10 days later, it brought a tear to my eye.
made me realise what hard times they were.