SIT: Sad and disappointed........

[TracyL]

A bit of a moan......

If people have added their surname interests why do they choose to ignore contact from someone responding to that??

I contacted six people recently as they all had a surname interest of Aston in the same area that I am researching.  Sadly, despite being able to see that every one of these people had logged on within a few hours of me sending a pm to them , only one person responded to me. 

This was a couple of months ago now.  I cannot understand why, if people are registering their interest in a name in an area, why they would ignore a genuine response to that.

Very disappointed that this happens on Rootschat (having read many criticisms of other sites doing this) - a simple response that the query does not coincide with their interests would be sufficient, but to ignore the contact entirely is rude.

So .... thank you to the person that kindly responded to my email.  To the others - why have a surname interested listed if you are not interested helping or responding to others when they contact you?

Tracy 

[kerryb]

Tracy

I was very sad to read your moan, I like thought Rootschat was different and am disappointed too to hear that.  I totally agree that if we put our surnames onto the SIT we should respond to requests. 

I always respond even if it is a no sorry we do not have a matching person or whatever. 

Be assured if you ever have a name the same as me you will be treated with courtesy!!!!!

Kerry

[TracyL]

Hi Kerry

Thank you for that

Feel better now I have got that off my chest!

Tracy

[kerryb]

I find it often helps!!!!!

Kerry

[Gadget]

Hi Tracy

I've always had a response from people that I've contacted.

It might be that they are away or haven't been on Roots for a while or their PM's don't work  . Don't give up 

Just noticed that they have been on roots - I'd send another PM, I think a few people are having problems - e.g. see Su's thread.

Gadget

Added - a bit early in the day for me  - Why don't you put up a thread on the relevant area board about your ASTON ancestors. You might get some response. I'm not defending any possible rudeness but there could be lots of reasons that they didn't respond.

[Keith Bateman]

Hi Tracy,

Not like Rootschatters not to respond to messages - I would love to find someone with my interests!!

Keith

[newbie]

Tracy,
As said before, it could just be that they've not received a notification of any message, happened to me today ( I had a message that I hadn't received any notification for I just thought I'd have a quick peep)! sorry it's happened to you though, it is so disappointing.
Newbie

[TracyL]

When I only received one response, I did check profiles and saw that everyone had logged on within a few hours of me sending messages, which suggested to me that they had received notifcation.

But maybe not........ it's nicer to think that they didn't receive it  than to think that people can't be bothered if it's not of interest to them

Tracy

[newbie]

Tracy,

it's nicer to think that they didn't receive it  than to think that people can't be bothered if it's not of interest to them

I agree, but it is possible they didn't receive the notification, I didn't and I had logged on several times before today ? technology moves in peculiar ways... 
Lets hope they respond at some time,
Newbie