Pearson Puzzle

[sadie]

Is anybody able to help or make suggestions.

I am stuggling to find information that makes any sense.

My gg grandma is an Emma or Emily Pearson. The information I have so far is that she was born abt 1861 in East Farleigh, Kent. I also have that she is buried in Manor Park Cemetery (London/Essex).

The details that I am finding are leaving me puzzled. I have found 2 births that either or none could be her:
Emma Elizabeth Pearson b. 1861 - North Aylesford Maidstone 2a 314
or
Emily Clara Pearson b. 1861 - Maidstone 2a 461 Mar

I cannot find her marriage with John Clarke who was born in Norwich abt 1851, but I can locate them on the 1891 & 1901 census living in Chigwell Essex, their children were: Emma, Kate, Albert, Sydney, Nellie, Arthur, Eliza, Maud & a John b. 1901 (my g grandfather).
On both censuses she is an Emma & aged 30 & 41 born on both at East Farleigh.

I have searched the 1871 & found a likely, the name this time Emily aged 10 (ties in), her father George widowed. I think I have then found him on the 1881 remarried to a Sophia. Cannot find Emma/Emily on the 1881.

I cannot find Emma or Emily at all. I'm wondering if she married someone else before John & had a different surname which is why I cannot find a marriage.

I hope that this information isn't too confusing I have tried to detail it in the hope that somebody can help.

Here's hoping, many thanks - Sadie