Hi Jennifer and Kris,
I, too did some more hunting. I hate to give up on something like this. I think I have found the farm.
There is a farm, called Oakhurst, located on Fisher Lane,
Chiddingfold, which is quite near Billingshurst and Alfold.
In the 1869 Kelly's Directory, it is listed under Billingshurst, but the farmer is a Francis Botting. I did a bit of trawling around in the 1881 Census and found several Cooper families, living in Fisher Lane, near the farm. I think they may be all related as they are all working in the same trade, making walking sticks and dealing in wood. Unfortunately there is no Thomas among them, but perhaps his parents had moved away
by then. I checked FreeBMD and found only one Thomas Arthur Cooper, born June Q, 1877, Lambeth
1d 436. I tried the 1891 Census, but like Kris, found far too many Coopers and not knowing the exact location,
it looked impossible. Perhaps I'll give it another try.
Anyway, thought I should let you know about the farm
and the Coopers living close to it. Some of these Coopers owned a stick factory, employing 50 men. Does this ring any bells for you, Jennifer? These were the only Coopers that I could find anywhere near Oakhurst Farm, except for an unmarried vicar.
Will try to find out more.
Cheers,
Carmela
Could not leave it alone. Went back and now have found
a Thomas Cooper, born 1881-82, Chiddingfold. Could this be your man? If you think this could be the one, I can send details. If you send me your e-mail address in a private message, I will send info directly to you.