Am I just too touchy?

[Berni]

hi
i to am a relatively newbie
but the time and patience
wonderful people have given
me i  really cannot thank enough
although i suppose it also  depends
where you live how you thank
someone
berni
 

[Sarndra]

I go with Trystans philanthropic approach. If you work from the premise that:-
Never expect people to appreciate what you have done.
But ALWAYS appreciate the work of others!

So so true.  It really wrankles me when i generously give out any information to anyone and later see specific information/research noted as the recipients own work without attribution to the source i.e. me.  In this hobby you learn to let that go but it can have a detrimental affect as to how much information you send out to others in the future.

Also, i try to get contacts information FIRST before  i give out what i have as i find it is often not reciprocated when promised. 

Cheers
Sarndra
www.sarndra.com

[Heather D]

Personally I don't mind a one word acknowledgment ...much better than none at all.

Mind, I see where you're coming from Annette. It's a real pleasure when someone spares a few words to let you know how you've helped and maybe shares a bit of their history with you. I get just as excited over other people's families as I do my own!

It opens up a conversation and connects you with other people who share your interests. Whereas a more blunt reply can make you feel like nothing more than an unpaid looker-upper. Not sure if I've explained myself clearly but hey, it's getting late here!

Heather

[Berni]

hi
today i recieved a reply to my post regarding
my grandparents in ireland. the lady was showing it to
her mum  who remembered them and gave me lots of
info.
im sure how grateful i am cannot be shown in the
words thank you
berni x

[trish251]

..... an over-effusive, slightly bonkers genealogy nerd.  ...

My husband tells folks I am a "family history enthusiast" I hope he doesn't find this description as I am sure he would consider it more suitable      

Trish

[Annette7]

Heather

You've hit the nail on the head - that's exactly what I think and feel.   Guess you and I are singing from the same hymn-sheet (not that I can sing but you know what I mean).

Annette      

[lil growler]

hi again

I should add that Cheers Mate is common for our parts amongst friends, however its not something that I would say to someone who is say about 60 yrs old, it would be a thank you.

lil

[trish251]

hi again

I should add that Cheers Mate is common for our parts amongst friends, however its not something that I would say to someone who is say about 60 yrs old, it would be a thank you.

lil

Often very tricky to know how old someone is on the net. I don't look at the profile of everyone I post with & many do not have an age in their profile anyway.

I would suggest if you don't like how someone responds - don't reply to them again - works for me. Otherwise carry on regardless - which works for me sometimes too 

I did once send a pm to someone & suggest the odd thank you may get them more information - he/she didn't respond to that suggestion either, nor to the other 150 or so lookups that had been provided - so I gave up    as one does.

Trish

[lil growler]

So far so good, everyone thats replied to any help I've given has been thankful ( whatever term they use ) myself included when others help me. What I do understand is others may not like the terms that are used and it's important we understand that and where they are coming from, as heather summed up beautifully, expressing how annette feels.

Yeah,  knew as soon as I said it someone would catch me out on the net reference and not being able to determine ones age, but was speaking really for where I live and that even I say such terminology which is classed as a norm here ( a friendly thanks ), but should have added what you had pointed out

And it's to bad the person didn't take your advice trish, I'd be inclined to give up too.

lil